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writes:Last 4th of July i met a girl and asked her out. She said yes! Everything was great! She was sweet, I felt Loved, and i made sure she felt loved. It was kinda a long distance relationship, but about Thanksgiving, by some miracle, I moved closer to her, only 30 miles away. Everything was going great! Until Christmas when her mom caught us making out in one of the bedrooms at their house. After that my girlfriend was terrified to kiss me, to hug me, all she wants to do is hold my hand. Now its March, and Money is tight, I lost my cell phone so i don't get to talk to her that much anymore, only on the computer using an instant messenger or emails. But she was grounded yesterday so now she cant get online and talk to me. But ever scence we was caught making out I have felt more and more unloved, When i move in to kiss her she jolts back, and it is hard to explain but i get this cold feeling in my chest when she does. Last time i saw her was 3 weeks ago. 3 weeks before that (6 weeks ago) things started going down hill. I think its out of frustration. When we talk she will say either 2 things, either "I'm feeling tired" or "I don't feel too good". at first it was no problem "Okay baby, hope you get to feeling better" you know...whatever. But lately its getting harder and harder to believe her. Part of me is thinking she cheating on me, but another part knows she would never do that! I think i may just be paranoid. But now that she says she is grounded, like she don't even wanna say hello. I'm just so frustrated, confused, lost on what to do. I really don't want to lose this girl, she is sweet and caring. But I don't think she even truly loves me because when we talk about sexual things she gets either nervous or uncomfortable, and i don't know if that is because she is a virgin (which I'm not even sure about) or because she don't love me the way i love her.
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reader, oxy +, writes (1 April 2009):
oxy is verified as being by the original poster of the questionLol :) i have the best girlfirend ever! everything is fine now ^_^ i just talked to her about it and now everything is perfect! couldnt be better! :P
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reader, kb_rss +, writes (30 March 2009):
 I went through exactly what you are going through. So this is what i did...hope it helps you.
I stopped calling so often and acted as if i wasnt that worried and if she truely does care about you then she will start calling you or e-mailing you then things should get better after that. It takes two people to make something work not just one, and I feel as if you are that one trying to make things work.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2009): leave her man, forget about her, just dont contact and wait for her to contact you, when she does.. then you know it was ment to be.
Give it time.. give her space, iv been in your shoes before.. they just seem overwhelmed and possibly she is scared to get emotionaly close to you beacuse of being hurt/heartbreak.
Just dont get stressed out about something you CANNOT CONTROL. goodluck buddy
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reader, Neferterie +, writes (29 March 2009):
 I'm sorry, you must be so sad right now.
If I were you, I'd give her some space. Dont contact her, make her contact you. And if this continues, you might want to ask your self if this relationship will work or not. From what I've seen it doesn't seem like it will.
Good luck, and keep me informed!
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