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writes:ok here goes. I am in a little situation here I have been dating my bf for 2 yrs now and seriously he is not motivated or anything.He is faithful and is a nice guy but I dont think i want to marry him anymore.Ever heard of the saying small things counts well he lies for simple things and now im pregnant he doesn't care for me the way i want him to. Sleeping over doesn't mean a thing. Our parents wants us to get married in 3 months and they have set a date for him to bring the engagement ring which is May 22nd. He knows that if we dont marry i would get kick out of the house and him, he still lives with his parents and his many siblings.So if he loved me as much as he claimed ,even though we both disagree of marrying earlier just because of a child, wouldn't he still do it jus so my parents wouldn't kick me out? I'm in college and i work so I do not want to get marry now , not till 2 yrs if it's Gods will for me cuz we want more time to save. I am having doubts about him. He doesnt't listen when i talk, always getting mad for simple things, doesn;t call as often as he use to, hangs up the phone on me and simply lacks romanticness. Ywah he is inexperience and i know he loves me eveyone sees that but i want actions. I have spoken to him about that but doesn't progres or try harder. I know he happy cus im pregnent cus now he thinkin he can be laid back and i ain't going anywhere. He wants to get engaged this yr but i'm having doubts. Should i stay with him cus he is faithful and different from other guys or should i should back up? I truly love him so y am I having these doubts? he is unmotivated and doesn't have any goals set. What should I do and guys please tell me how you all show your gf you love her and how can i tell he is using marriage talk to keep me around. he have told me he is scared to lose me and he have cried when we go periods like couple of days without talking. SORRY FOR THIS LONG POST. Thanks in advance to all ^^^^
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2009): thanks kellyxxx and Ginalolabridga fory our answers. Yeah he works, he makes a good salary every week as well as myself. thanks again.
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reader, kellyxxx  +, writes (26 March 2009):
 I think you should try to make this work for the baby's sake! Try to keep talking to him, sit down by yourselves and you need to tell him that you want to see him motivated, ask him to set short term goals! If he is asked to set short term goals then he won't feel too threatened or underpressure and you will have made progress. X
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