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writes:I have found out that my partner has been viewing porn sites and Im not happy. Should I confront him...again. I have told him i dont like him doing this and he promised not to do it again.Some of these sites have teenagers in them and we have teenage daughters so it makes me feel sick.Should I throw him out, as he oviously didnt respect my feelings when i discussed it with him before
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reader, cream of the crop  +, writes (23 August 2009):
Honestly take it from someone who has been there.My boyfriend of 3 years and i found out that he was watching porn which is an insult to my looks and sex,and that hurt me.But the worst part about it is he had at least looked at 4 teenage porn videos.I thru him out for a day and then took him back the next day let him come back because he is sweet in every other way.So he made his own rule not to be on the computer any more and if he does it again he will be gone and if ur husband does it again he is a pedaphile get rid of him check out some sites on the signs of a pedaphile see what you think this is a very serious matter and its very very scary i think about it every day good luck sweetie
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2009): I watch porn because I am a grown man. I am not happy with my wife to be honest but I stay with her because we have child. We live in a world where men often are to blame for when a relationship goes sour. have you ever given thought on the fact that your man might need more sex or more exciting sex? What's wrong with wanting to have great sex. I think that you should humble down a bit and also take a look at what you can do in order to lessen your man's lust for internet porn addiction. You're his woman right? Take my advice...be the classy lady in his life and try to be the outmost slut in bed, trust me, it will help. I don't mean to be disrespectful to you but I am giving you the perspective of a man. I am not happy at all with my woman but I do love her, that's the reason why we still are together is because she is the mother of my child and I do truly love this woman. My dilemna is that I am not happy with her. Sex does not seem important to her but it is to me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2009): I think you are over reacting to this, porn is just porn. Ok I understand some women get exploited but dont forget this some men get exploited too. It is natural for men (and women) to lust and think about sex. Porn just puts these thoughts into pictures. I also understand that things can be taken too far, but again this happens elsewhere. MOST husbands view porn and some women do to. It can assist with couples who find it hard to put actions into words. Why on earth would you want to throw him out? errm hello! I don't think so, tell him your disappointment but for goodness sakes don't throw him out!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2009): I hear where you are coming from....you have teenagers and your husband is looking at teenagers...seems very sick to me. I take it you have spoken with him about this before????If not you need to point out where you are coming from...how would he like a creepy man checking out your teenage daughters??? He needs to be told this...it is sick!If you have spoken to him, speak to him again and if there is still no change kick him out. Has he no respect for your teenagers?? You should make him feel as low as possible. Dont listen to the male replies...they always have to justify it for the male species.Do what you feel is right, tell him you have lost trust in him. I have been here...and my husband and I almost split for good...I know he doesnt do it any more 100% and we are much happier. Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2009): I, too, am experiencing what you describe. My husband, of 48 years, has been doing his 'thing' on his computer and spending his time either computing or napping or, of late, smoking pot. He has COPD and is thus compromised in other ways. I am distraught as this behavior goes against anything either one of us has either accepted as normal behavior in the past. I am feeling bereft and abandoned. I don't know what he's feeling as he is unwilling to discuss. He lies to me about what he's doing and the lies are as abusive as anything.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2009): I, too, am experiencing what you describe. My husband, of 48 years, has been doing his 'thing' on his computer and spending his time either computing or napping or, of late, smoking pot. He has COPD and is thus compromised in other ways. I am distraught as this behavior goes against anything either one of us has either accepted as normal behavior in the past. I am feeling bereft and abandoned. I don't know what he's feeling as he is unwilling to discuss. He lies to me about what he's doing and the lies are as abusive as anything.
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reader, DLover  +, writes (27 March 2009):
The #1 reason why men do watch porn is sexual unsatisfaction, which can occur because of quality or quantity, must commonly the second. He respects your libido and tries to satisfy himself otherwise without putting pressure on you to have (better?) sex more often. As far as I know, all porn sites have teens on them, because it's popular.
He probably promised under pressure, but he should have respected his word or talked more about it.
If you are looking for a man that will NEVER watch porn while being sexualy unsatisfied, it is going to be hard.
I would say keep him: there is certainly a ton of other things you love in him and there might be a way to negociate something that pleases you both.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2009): As long as he's not watching it every day, then it shouldn't be a problem. Watch it with him, there is nothing wrong. You want to throw him out over that, wow. No wonder divorce is up, coz people divorce over anything. What ever happened to for better or worse. It doesn't sound like he's addicted. I think you should get over it and get on with in.
Some porn has teenage girls, maybe suggest he watch other porn and not that.
I know you have teen daughters but that has nothing to do with it..
Let it go, you're over-reacting.
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reader, christina elizabeh +, writes (26 March 2009):
 i had the same problem with my ex. i think u should throw him out cause apparently he does not respect u. if u guys r married u should go see a counseler cause he might be addicted 2 porn.
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