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51-59,
*tella56
writes:I have been in contact with a man over the internet for over a year, he has just seperated from his wife and we have got very close emotionally.We used to ring each other and chat on the pc every night but we live quite far away from each other, but we want to meet 1 day.Anyway i logged in to a popular website and i saw that my fella had Buzzed 5 women on monday morning....in other words he said a quick hello to them so that he could get a response back....i looked at their photos and they were very attractive women, i was upset to say the least.When i confronted him, he made out that they contactedhim 1st but i found out later on that it was him who made the 1st contact. He's 53 and im 41....so hardly teenagers....i told him i couldn't trust him because it felt like he was going behind my back....Did i over react? I told him not to contact me anymore and he's been begging me to stay....but i cant....Did i do the right thing because im hurting
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2009): Yes you did the right thing if you are hurting.
But bear in mind that people you contact online are often contacting others. It wasn't a committed relationship and it sounds like he isn't ready for anything more yet. A year is a long time to keep emailing so next time, if you want more, ask the person what they are looking for in the longer term.
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reader, stella56 +, writes (27 March 2009):
stella56 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIt wasn't a dating site he was on, it was Friends Reunited.I spoke to him today and he said he didn't really mean to buzz those women,he was bored....he said he had no intention of following it through and that he loved me very much....I told him i needed time to think.
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reader, Smiles  +, writes (27 March 2009):
No harm in remaining friends; Good luck!
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reader, DLover  +, writes (27 March 2009):
I don't want to be mean, but a lot of people on dating web sites consider it fair to keep searching as long as they are not in a *serious* relationship. The problem lies in the definition of serious: some think it's after first date, other first kiss or other things.I think that's the 40 years old crisis: men need to prove themselves they still can seduce attractive members of the opposite sex, even though they might still be deeply in love with a great woman of their age. My guess is that it happens more if you had very few relationships, which might be the case if he was married for a long time.
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