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male
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hi everyone. I just want to know everyone's opinion on this situation I'm in... I recently lost my g/f due to a mistake, on my half, and to an extent I don't understand why I did it.. seriously...Well what happened was I was with my g/f for about 1 full year (if not a little more) and we were doing fairly well, but for some stupid reason i started to talk to this other girl who was, at the time just my "friend". This was about half ways into our relationship. My g/f told me to stop but I didn't. It wasnt until I finally got cought telling the other girl I had liked her, through messaging on the internet. She found out and I almost died, and felt so stupid. I promised her I would never do it again, but a month later I just started talking to that girl again. Let me take a pause and explain myself:1) Yes I know you might be thinking I REALLY DID LIKE THAT OTHER GIRL, but NO, i have NO feelings for her whatso ever.2) She really was just my friend, even if she "comforted me"Continuing... During the half of the relationship, after the first incident, she hadn't trusted me, saying things that made me upset, pushing me towards leaning on someone else, which is probably why I talked to my "friend". It certain ways, I couldn't help it, so I just continued to talk to her. So the 2nd time around, I get cought again, same situation, same person. Now my g/f left me with no chance at getting her back, its been roughly 2 1/2 months since it happened. She says shes lost the love for me, but I know I would never do it to her ever again, I really do love my ex, its way too hard to let her go. I, myself, don't understand why I did that. I could understand if I liked my other friend, but truth is, I have no attachment towards her at all... I just dont understand why this happened the way it did. I would wait forever for my ex, shes the best thing that ever happened to me... The only thing she tells me, is to get my life straight, then "We'll see". She tells me "If I love her, I wont call her for a year" So im going to be determined to show I I love her, but I do NOT want to lose contact with her... I hope i put my story clear enough, if theres anymore questions please let me know. I know i didn't hit every point, but I said the basics of my troubles. Any opinions / help appreciated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2009): Sorry buddy, looks like you've got no chance with your ex. Try to move on. Don't contact her for a year, and if in a year you feel like chatting for old time's sake give her a call. But this ship seems to have sailed.
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