A
male
age
41-50,
*tmoney
writes:I've been seeing this woman who about 11 years older than me for about 15 months now. She been divorced for a year now. When started are relationship everything was great. On weekends when she didn't have her kids she would stay about the whole weekend with me and even spend couple nights a week together. Well i made one mistake i wish i never made. I looked through her cell phone one morning while she was in shower and found naked pics and texts between her and another younger guy. It really made me upset and when i asked her she got upset because i looked through her phone. After we calmed down she talked about how shes scared of falling in love and she flirted because she was scarred. It took me a couple months and understand what she meant by it. I mean if i was in a shitty marriage for 15 years i wouldn't wanna get real serious with anyone either. I would want to take it one day at I time and have fun. But couple months after that i told her i loved her. Told her 2 or 3 times and she told to stop saying that. One weekend while out with a friend i ended up going home with another girl. I told her about and she broke in tears about it and I went to her house to talk to her next evening and she had another guy over. Well every since then I've been more jealous than i ever thought i could be and we continue to be spiteful about things.I got to wear i ride by her house to see if anybody else is there, i found her myspace password and she has had mine too. I add girls and she adds a bunch of young guys on there. I read messages and all i do is end of going out getting numbers. She found some on my phone and gets upset. She had some videos on her phone couple weeks ago laying on bed talking about fucking this guy she been talking to. She says she made them because his friend does porn pics and videos and she was hot and should let him film her. She says she was insecure about it and never sent em. I guess i understand some of this is cause she older and wants to feel attractive and have fun now because I'll probley not want her anymore and I'll get bored and want girls my age so she just wants to enjoy attention of younger guys. But should i sit home and prove to her i still want her and only her while shes doing some of these things. Shes say its hard to let go with me after i went home with that girl. I wanna to the right thing because I am in love with her.
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reader, cian  +, writes (26 March 2009):
 So what answer are you looking for?
I think that perhaps you should move on. While she is just rebounding, you are getting used.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2009): Bull crap you are in love with her.
She isn;t with you and you aren't with her.
If either of you actually knew what love meant... neither of you would be playing these childish games.
Either get together or break up and date other people. You cannot have a healthy relationship and be screwing around with other people or sending your naken pictures to toehrs either.
Simple as that. Grow up, the both of you.
Flynn 24
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