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Archived questions from: September, 2013 (see latest in Troubled relationships category)

Troubled relationships: Help and advice

Any advice on regaining some sort of power in a casual relationship?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4060 days ago

30 September 2013 (F) - Hi, I find myself in a bad situation, the classic casual hook up turned messy. I am seeing a younger man casually (I didnt think there was a future in it because of the age difference) and now I am having the usual problems associated with ...

How do I help my friend who has been drinking again and has started making unwanted sexual advances?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4061 days ago

30 September 2013 (?) - Hello. I would appreciate advice on how to help my friend. I am a 26 year old female, and my friend is quite a bit older than me. He lives across the road from me, and I know he has struggled with alcohol issues in the past. He used to drink a ...

How can I make him understand that my life is not just an extension of his?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4060 days ago

30 September 2013 (F) - I have been with my bf for about two years now when we met I had moved to the city and so didn't know anyone but my aunt here who's no help to me whatsoever. The problem is I haven't made any friends since we got together we do everything he wants ...

Me and my boyfriend are terrible at communicating, can this be fixed?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4061 days ago

30 September 2013 (F) - Me and my boyfriend are terrible at communicating, can this be fixed? We have been together for over 3 years but I still find it very difficult to talk to him about the future or anything like that. I know we can't go on like this, but I feel...

Am I being unreasonable in expecting my boyfriend to spend less time with his friends?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4061 days ago

30 September 2013 (F) - My boyfriend and I are both 28 years old. He is the love of my life and the best person I have been with. We both always say how Much we love each other and have stated we want a future together. We are both saving at the moment but are thinking of ...

My FWB says he feels no connection. What does he mean?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4061 days ago

30 September 2013 (F) - He says he does not know why but he cannot feel a connection to me. he says he cannot feel anything in his heart anymore since his live in gf of 5 yrs cheated on him. It has been 4 yrs since she did this. we started seeing each other 1 yr ago. He ...

Did Karma use me for sex because I tried to use her for sex?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4061 days ago

30 September 2013 (F) - Is Karma with merit? I ask this because what I did to another person seems to be happening to me now. I'm bisexual and I was trying to use a nice woman for sex but it never panned out. She found out what I was really about as far as only wanting to ...

Is my boyfriend scamming me??

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4061 days ago

30 September 2013 (F) - Is my boyfriend scamming me?? Here I am still in this 13 year relationship and it has been so long I don't even know if what I feel for him is love. Added to that are the arguments we have quite often. Of course, he still looks around every cha...

I hacked her facebook from her phone and found she's talking to a guy!

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4061 days ago

30 September 2013 (M) - Hello am I 27 year old male who has been with my girlfriend for the past 5 months. We've been having some problems lately. I looked on her phone which I know I shouldn't have done but I went to her Facebook account and looked at her messages and ...

I love him, but he hardly pays any attention to me!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4062 days ago

29 September 2013 (F) - I'm in a long distance relationship with someone who I've known for years. And for about a year he'd been begging to get to know me more and often told me how much he admired me. I've been hesitant because he lives in a totally different country but ...

I'm confused as to what he wants from me. I love him so much but why wont he ask me out if he claims to have these feelings for me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4062 days ago

29 September 2013 (F) - I'm confused as to what he wants from me. I love him so much but why wont he ask me out if he claims to have these feelings for me. We met a few years ago, we fell in love, he disappeared we moved on. 5 years later we met up again, and feeli...

My boyfriend cheated, on top of that we are of different religions.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4048 days ago

29 September 2013 (F) - I am 23 years old and am a doctor. I am in india. I am in love with my boyfriend for 5years our relationship has been fine except for a few ups and downs . During the first year of our college my bf was dating a classmate of ours they then stopped ...

He has so little time for me I feel it might be time to break it off

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4062 days ago

29 September 2013 (F) - There are a couple of similar posts up here today which is what brought me to this site, but none really sum up my situation properly which is why I am posting too. I am 28 and have been with my 25 year old boyfriend for 3.5 years. He is a m...

I did everything for him and he wants to break up?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4062 days ago

29 September 2013 (F) - My boyfriend and I got together this january after he constantly pestered me to get with him despite all our mutual friends advising me against it. I told him I am not looking for sex in the relationship due to my religious beliefs and family values ...

Together for over 5 years and yet we hardly see each other. Is moving in together the best way to improve the relationship?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4062 days ago

29 September 2013 (F) - Should I move in with my boyfriend even though we hardly see each other? We have been together for over 5 years, but due to his work schedule and social commitments, we see each other once a week at the most. I don't feel we are 'serious' enough to ...

Does he really take Viagra just to masturbate?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4060 days ago

29 September 2013 (F) - I have been in Married 15 years. I love him very much. However, I found two times he took Viagra with him when he is a way for a long trip. First time I found he took about 2 pill, this time was half of the bill. Both times, I talked to him. I asked ...

My boyfriend is flipping out because my family is here helping with our new baby!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4061 days ago

29 September 2013 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 7 years and just had a baby a month ago he goes to school and works and I stay home on leave, my family and him dont get along and lately my family has been up to help me out with the baby because ...

Yells, screams and is needlessly hostile to me. How do I deal with my BF when he is like this?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4056 days ago

28 September 2013 (F) - Needlessly hostile boyfriend, hard to deal with. I'm on my last nerve with my boyfriend, and I feel like I have no one else to turn to. We've been dating for over a year, and we're both 21. This weekend was supposed to be a good, fun couple of days ...

She's unhappy about it. Is it wrong to be in a casual relationship with a guy who has an open relationship with his Gf?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4063 days ago

28 September 2013 (F) - Is it wrong of me to be continuing a casual relationship with a guy who is in an open relationship with another girl, and the girl is beginning to be unhappy about it? It's nothing serious between us (though it is ongoing, around once or twice a ...

My Uncle's solution has upset me. What can I do? He wants to disappear as payback for his wife's adultery.

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 4062 days ago

28 September 2013 (M) - Dear Aunts i now find myself asking you for your advice on this family issue. My uncle and aunt have played a critical role in my up bringing for the first fifteen years of my life. My uncle confided in me that his wife my aunt confessed to him t...

How do I cope with the breakdown of my parents marriage?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4062 days ago

28 September 2013 (F) - Hi everyone, just hoping for a bit of advice. My mum has just started the menopause and now is saying that she wants my dad to move out. They have been together for over 30 years and while I admit they have had their ups and downs, I have never se...

Should I even bother trying to be friends with this guy again?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4063 days ago

28 September 2013 (F) - Helloo. c8 So, turns out I was kinda thrown into a situation. This male once-friend of mine (let's call him Tim) asked me to the dance, and I said no, because I had a boyfriend. I hadn't told him beforehand that I did, because I don't really car...

I think we're on a break. What do I do from here?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4063 days ago

28 September 2013 (F) - My boyfriend and I have apparently went on a forced break by him, not me. We've been together for 3 years. He's 35 and I'm 31. We don't live together and would see each other once or twice a week and then spend the weekends together. We started ...

Why did my 30 years older than me coworker talk to me about his wife and kids?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4063 days ago

28 September 2013 (F) - I don't understand why we had this conversation?what do you think the meaning was. through work i've come across a worker who now i am involved with for some work. first time saw him he shook my hand and when leaving patted my back. Thats fi...

How to gracefully deal with boyfriend's best female friend?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4063 days ago

27 September 2013 (F) - I have a problem with my boyfriend's best female friend. I've been with my boyfriend for about a year and a half and known him for two years. He met her about a year before he met me. They lived in the same college hall the year before he met me, ...

How do I cope with my girlfriend when she's immature and aggressive?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4063 days ago

27 September 2013 (M) - my girlfriend is 18 in a few months and im 20 were at the same college and our classes are close as she does photography and i do graphic design. anyway lately i asked her at college to help me do some photography and she said yes but when we ...

How do I go on being NOT the so-nice understanding friend victim into the real me?

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 4063 days ago

27 September 2013 (F) - This is probably the weirdest most disghusting querry you'll ever read, but I'm afraid I need an insight on this one and how to deal with this tricky situation to say the least. I happen to have a friend who whenever she comes to my place, use...

Does it sound like it's time to end the relationship?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4064 days ago

27 September 2013 (F) - I'm in a confused situation right now. I feel like things with me and my boyfriend are never going to change. We live together but he works a lot so we only see each other during that day. He texts constantly! From when he wakes up till he goes to ...

What can I do so girls don't think I'm trying to steal their man?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4063 days ago

27 September 2013 (F) - I find it difficult to make friends; as a female I find it even harder to be friends with women. If I consider a person my friend, they become like family to me. It seems that I can't be friends with women because they just end up stabbing me in the ...

My married male friend has admitted to being in love with me!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4064 days ago

27 September 2013 (F) - Ok, so I am a 21 yr old female, student, and i have this male friend(30), an audiologist, who is married and has a kid.. I always saw him in this friend area...plus he is my best friend. He admitted of being Madly in love with me. It was a ...

How do I respond to this friend who seems to be upset that I've become a happy stay at home mom?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4064 days ago

27 September 2013 (F) - I recently moved overseas with my husband. We hav a baby and i amcrrently a stay at home mom. Iv known this friend since childhood .we went to the same school and she was also my bridesmaid. We were not best friends but we were good friends and she ...

One minute he wants marriage, the next he gives me up?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4064 days ago

26 September 2013 (F) - His feelings are so wishy washy One minute he says he wants to spend the rest of his life with me then the next he says Im his bestfriend. Then he'll say that he wants to be committed and then get married and then next he says, I should be with s...

The guy I like went back to his ex because he misses the child. What should I do?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 4058 days ago

26 September 2013 (F) - Please can someone help me what to do I am so much in love with a guy who loves me to but he's gone back to his ex cos he misses his son which isn't his biologically but has been there since born little one is 3 now he texts me everyday telling me ...

My husband of 9 years cheated for numerous times. How can I get over this?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4063 days ago

26 September 2013 (F) - I have asked for help several time on dear cupid and now need more advice. I found out my husband of 9 years cheated. Not just once, but this went on for months during the most difficult time of our lives. It hurts me more because he didnt feel bad ...

My girlfriend is letting me go, while keeping her blood results secret. What should I do?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4064 days ago

26 September 2013 (M) - So, I'm 30 and my girlfriend is 23, we live in different far countries, we've had plans of her coming over to stay with me on December, and getting married around next February, we've even managed her a job over here, and everything was working out ...

Why would he still want to keep the relationship if he has no time for me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4065 days ago

26 September 2013 (F) - Hi, it's been 3 months now and I only met my bf twice. I understood that he has just been promoted from his job and needs a lot of travel. But then during his free time, he wouldn't at least meet me for an hour or two regardless of the fact that his ...

Is it bad I stopped talking to my mom after my parents divorced?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4059 days ago

26 September 2013 (F) - My parents are newly divorced, and I am still recovering from the hellish and nasty ordeal that it became. I tried to keep contact with my mother, but I am afraid of the depth of her emotion. My mom carries a lot of rage and pain inside, and it j...

Boyfriend's dad has terminal cancer and we're having trouble. Do I talk to him about things?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4066 days ago

25 September 2013 (F) - I was wanting to have a serious relationship chat with my bf of 6 yrs, about whether he actually wanted to be with me because he never seems that happy and thus I am never that happy. However, we've just found out his dad has lung cancer which is ...

My "friend" wont talk to me

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4066 days ago

25 September 2013 (M) - I talked with my co worker a lot- during shifts, on breaks, and after shifts. It seemed like we were heading down friendship where I got his number and we started texting and stuff. After, it seemed like we were friends, he then suddenly quits the ...

I'm not making as much money so I'm behind on my alimony! Ideas?

This question has 22 answers - newest was posted 4064 days ago

24 September 2013 (M) - i need help, i have recently got married and had a baby with a beautiful 24 year old girl. my ex wife took me for alot of alimony, and i was ok to pay her for the first year she was awarded it for five years. im having difficulties now paying her ...

It feels like he blames me for finding out about this child with an ex of his!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4067 days ago

24 September 2013 (F) - I've been married for almost 17-years. When we started dating (first year) we had sex almost everyday. After 5-months into our relationship, we were informed that my husband could be a dad from a former girlfriend (she had four boyfriends at the ...

I just discovered that his ex owes him a lot of money!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4066 days ago

24 September 2013 (F) - Hello Aunties! I have been with my bf for 3 1/2 yrs, we have lived together for the last 2yrs. He treats me like a queen...however....his ex who lives in another country and has been engaged throughout our entire relationship is a problem. They do...

I do still love him and think about him but I'm confused by his words!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4066 days ago

24 September 2013 (F) - I love this guy, and he tells me he loves me. We have been together for 6 months now. All this while we've been together,i thought we were a couple until last week wen i text him that it was better we broke up since he said i was hurting him. I ...

My boyfriend's best friend is a girl who likes him and it really bothers me!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4067 days ago

24 September 2013 (F) - Hey everyone so I'm not sure if I'm over reacting or what. But my boyfriend has a girl best friend I'm not used to dating guys who have girl best friends infact I absolutely hate it! But he's been friends with her way before we started dating. They ...

My boyfriend says "don't get used to me doing things for you" and then does nice things. What am I supposed to do?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4068 days ago

23 September 2013 (F) - Hey everyone, So I got into a tiff my boyfriend..earlier during the date he said 'don't get used to me doing things for you' and I don't know why he would say that when I don't make him do anything.. He never lets me pay when we go out infact w...

But why won't the next man suffer for my last relationship?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4068 days ago

23 September 2013 (F) - When most men that are approaching me seems to be using the same line the last one used to get me. I am a very successful young woman. A Christian, Community organizer, ambitious with awesome career since out of high school. My last relation...

My boyfriend believes I don't know how to act in social situations.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4066 days ago

23 September 2013 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 5 years now, and in the last few months he's been making comments that have made me think he is getting annoyed at the fact I am quite shy. I've always been that way - I was seriously shy as...

How do I deal with an extremely moody boyfriend?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4068 days ago

23 September 2013 (F) - How do I deal with an extremely moody boyfriend? I've been with him for 4 years (he is 25, I'm 27) and he has always been moody but it's getting harder and harder to deal with these days. For example we have just returned from a trip abroad to s...

What's the deal with ALWAYS making dates and then not going through with them?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4065 days ago

23 September 2013 (M) - Okay, so about 2 weeks ago I'm in the grocery store and this girl is checking me out. It occurs to me to hit on her, but I ultimately don't. On my walk home, the same girl pulls up beside me and starts chatting me up. She tells me I'm perfect, cute ...

Am I the only one feeling this way? Does he miss me too?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4067 days ago

23 September 2013 (F) - I was with this guy for only a little over a month. We were very close and bonded very well. But he felt I was insecure and kept pushing him away when he was trying to get to know me better, therefore he decided to cut off completely. It's been two ...