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writes:I'm in a confused situation right now. I feel like things with me and my boyfriend are never going to change. We live together but he works a lot so we only see each other during that day. He texts constantly! From when he wakes up till he goes to sleep its non stop. When I want him to spend time with me without his phone he won't. I have to beg him to put his phone down and he still doesn't. We never do anything together. All we do is stay home doing nothing. He's friends and family live 30 minutes away in a different city. everyweekend he goes there and stays all night sometimes or stays until real late. He wont take me around anyone cause he says im to bossy. Which I'm not. He lies about small things and he won't talk to me about stuff that's bothering him instead he talks to other people. Should I just end things?
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reader, llifton +, writes (28 September 2013):
 i had an ex who lived on her phone constantly, just like that. i swear, it literally grew into a part of her hand. i had to do the same thinig - beg her to put the damn thing down and spend time with me. she couldn't and wouldn't do it. want to know why? because she was cheating on me. that's why.
i'm not saying that's what he's doing, but it wouldn't shock me. otherwise, why else couldn't he just put it down and talk to his friends later?
even if he's not cheating, it sounds like he's just a crappy boyfriend, in general. he doesn't make time for you, he doesn't take you with him when he goes out, he lies, and he's just not someone i'd want to be with.
i'd break up with him, if i were you. but that's easier said than done, i know. but it sounds to me like you two don't have much of a relationship at all. i think you'll be better off in the long-run, where you can move on and find a guy who makes you his top priority. good luck, dear.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (28 September 2013):
 Geeze, he texts other people nonstop when you two are having time together, then lies and calls you bossy? Sounds like he's already checked out of the relationship. I'd leave him, because that writing is already on the wall.
He is with you until someone else comes along. I say that because he's not having you be around other people he knows (the excuse he gives about bossiness is worthless -- guys pull that off if they're cheating because the people he'd bring you around would know the truth, and he'd want to avoid the "But what about *insert other girl's name*?).
End it with him. He's done anyways, and if you two live together, find out what to do to break your lease, and then look for somewhere else to go.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2013): You sound like a roommate, not his girlfriend. He probably only needs you around when he feels horny and when it's time to pay the rent.
Yes, it's time to pack your things and find another place to live; or move back home, if you're welcome to come home. Or at least until you find your own place.
They don't know what they've got 'til it's gone! Don't look back once you leave.
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reader, GentleGiant  +, writes (28 September 2013):
By your admission you find that there is something wrong with this man. Tex ting is fine but if that is his main mode of communication than there is something wrong here. Your suspicions are correct. Accusing you of being to bossy sounds pretty immature myself. This guy has issues, it is time for the heart to heart talk. lying, be sneaking and controlling in a way is a sign this man is not ready for a relationship. He might be heavy into the porn.It sounds that there something a miss. Just tell him to take a hike. If you cant be honest in a relationship then that is a huge deal breaker. That violates any chance of building trust. Just say good-bye...
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reader, CMMP +, writes (27 September 2013):
No, it sounds like the perfect relationship to me (sarcasm).
The bottom line is that if you aren't happy and you talk to the person you're with and they don't care, it's time to accept things the way they are or leave. Those are the only two choices.
This is a valuable lesson to learn: sometimes love is not enough, you also need compatibility. What good is a person to love if they don't make you happy?
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