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writes:My boyfriend cheated and had a baby. I found out 10 months later by accidentNow he wants another chance. I am so torn because I love him but the entire family knew about it and they all kept quiet. They asked me to cosign for a house..this was before I found out. I felt so deceived. Should I forgive him? Reply to this Question
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (3 September 2009):
 Break up pain is the worst. I don't think there are too many people who haven't faced it at some point in their life. You are doing it to make life better for yourself and avoid being cheated on in the future so you have lots to gain.
Give yourself plenty of time to work through your feelings and identify your plans for the future. Spend time with friends and treat yourself well. I guarantee that the pain will pass and believe me...there is ALWAYS someone new around the corner!!
Good Luck to you xx
Aunty Em
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you so very much for your words of encoragement.This is extremely difficult for me because I have been in this family since 1992. But i must tell you that i have decided to RUN...RUN Run....enough is enough...my heart hurts tremendously.I am hoping and praying that one day the sun will shine again and I will find someone that will love me just for being me.Thanks again
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2009): Run away from him .....AND HIS FAMILY. seems like deceit runs in his afmily. i think there is a cooling off period regarding the property deal. please check it (if not mistaken 30 days, in some 7 days).they are just usng you financially. bf think you are a fool, well you will be if you stay with him.run, run, run.....for your life. DO NOT FORGIVE HIM, he is just not worth any tears
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (31 August 2009):
ABSOLUTELY NOT!!!!
You DO need to sort out the co-signing of the house and make sure it has no residual financial implications on you. Then you need to kiss his cheating scumbag butt goodbye for good!!!!
xxxxx
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reader, UnfortunateReality +, writes (31 August 2009):
NO...NO NO
Cut off all communication and run away as fast as you can~Let the cheater
face his own mistakes and problems. Too many men availabe to put up
with this loser
DO YOU HEAR ME.........RUN AS FAST AS YOU CAN AND DON'T LOOK BACK~
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2009): Well first of all, what exactly happened? I mean did he get drunk and make a mistake, or was he having sex alcohol free with random women? Is he going to be a part of this lady and child's life?
Honestly you need to ask yourself if you can forgive him, if you can do it without hanging it over his head, and if you can trust him again.
This isn't about his family, this is about you and him.
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reader, r0ckah0l1c +, writes (31 August 2009):
I wouldn't forgive him. I would ditch him and his family. Once a cheater always a cheater, and now that he had her kid they will always been attached in some way. Plus what if you want kids in the future? You won't want them with him.
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