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writes:[MOD NOTE: Three questions into one]Hello, Long and short, i had an affair and can not get over my lover. Trying to work it out with the husband, but can not seem to get my lover out of my head. I have heard this is normal, but i just want to be back in love with my husband. I am not in love with my husband.. why?...why is my ex so mean to me? When i run into him, he is polite and then goes away like he does not want to see me. Ran into him not to long ago and he said hey, but then went to go talk to another girl. I was talking with another guy, and my ex kept tabs on me. He would glance my way to see how things were going with this guy etc... Is he just not over me? He has been so rude and mean when he has triied to call, so i do not call him back and that is getting to him. Then he swithes tones and calls back .. just seeing how i am ? what gives?If you are over your ex why would you call ? First he called and left mean horrible messages ( about supposed rumors about me) then he called agian to see how i was. I am confused so i mentioned to get together and he said he cant what is with this guy?...
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2009): i think you are mistaken, YOU DO NOT WANT TO FIX YOUR MARRIAGE. you are still obsessing about your lover. get real. you have no concerns about your husband, you are only concerned about your lover and well, what more can i say. you are so selfish. married woman, seeking sexual gratification elsewhere, stealing her husbands resources and finances. instead of releasing her husband the wife selfishly still holds on to him, yet obsesses about the lover. the married woman syndrome is sickening. and cowradly. you optimise both. you still want the lover hankering for you, yet remain a "married " woman. time to be realistic and time to get your married act together.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (30 August 2009):
So...you want to work things out with your husband, yet you want to get together with the ex? I'm sorry, I don't have an answer for you as to why you don't love your husband anymore, only you can figure that out.
Of course the man you had an affair with is bitter towards you. You're the typical married spouse that had an affair and won't leave their husband even though they technically don't want to be with him. Out of habit and wonder your ex still calls you, but he's probably pissed off that you're still with your husband.
So you need to make a decision. Either your husband OR him, not both. Not this whole, "I'm trying to work it out with my husband" crap and then get together with the man you had an affair with, yet wonder why he says no. It's really not that hard, choose one. And when you choose one, you stay with them and don't cheat on them. It's really not fair to your husband anyway to be in a marriage where his wife doesn't even love him. Send him on his way so he can find a new woman that does love him.
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