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female
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30-35,
*elples
writes:I have been feeling quite sad recently. My boyfriend ended up staying in states, in our hometown, for college. I left to a college five hours away from home. This first week of school has been tough, and I'm not referring to the books. It seems we've been talking less. He barely calls, or texts me like he use to. We use to text everyday, even in summer, twenty four seven. But on Monday-Wednesday, he was busy with transcripts and such so I left it alone. But it made my heart ache when I was the only one calling to see how he was. I told him about it and he apologized. He called Thursday and texted Friday. On Saturday, he texted but it stopped as soon as he arrived at his best friends house to do math homework. He said he'll call later. He didn't. The next morning (today), I called him at one since he never called. He said he didn't finish his homework until three in the morning. And he had woken up thirty minutes ago... I just think his feelings for me are fading away. He now has a taste of life at home without me. We don't even text everyday anymore. And when we do nowadays, its so short. I was thinking of just asking him if he likes me less and if he asks me why, I'll reply with my reasons. Is this a good idea? What should I do...?
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reader, shane in dallas +, writes (11 October 2009):
 It's always a good idea to communicate your feelings. I believe a person can say anything, it's just how you say it. In your case, I'd do it face to face. Since a 5 hr trip isn't so bad, tell him you're planning one home and go visit and get your answers. Prepare yourself for whichever way it could go.
When this happened to me, my friend's reason was he also was going thru the transitions in his life and they weren't related to me but distracted him from me. That brought us to the next level: So what was the next step, the efforts needed to keep the relationship going, the times we could dedicate to phone and visits? It was not easy...
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