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writes:This might sound silly or strange but I felt like talking it out rather than just keeping it inside me.First of all today my mom was saying how cold it was. I immediately replied it's not cold. She then for some crazy reason makes a big fuss about it, and sulks and gets angry at me for saying that. Now I know I might be wrong as well, but did she had to sulk over a short comment like that. It's like my mom expects me, my dad and brother not to reply back to whatever she proclaims. It's like I have to keep my mouth shut always. Anything I speak it turns out bad most of the time. She makes small things into big things. One thing that annoys me is she loves to keep repeating things, like smacking the words right into your face, which really annoys me. She can sometimes twist what she said previously and make it seem really extreme. She even said that it was cold outside, but I didnt remember her saying that. All she said it was cold, how was I suppose to know she meant outside? As always and people will flame me for this, I tried to cool things down with, she swings a slap at my face and distorts my new glasses, I had to resort to getting my back up one. I don't know who's right or am I crazy to talk about this. It's so annoying, I want to be happy and enjoy my day, but everything I do is always looked on negatively by my mom. My dad doesn't do this, somehow even if hes serious most of the time he doesnt do what my mom does. It's getting on my nerves sometimes. I just want to be happy =/.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2009): You're definately not crazy! My mum is exactly like yours, and I actually posted a question on here regarding something similar, as I think my mum has either anger problems, or depression, or both :|. Are there other things that may contribute to the way she behaves, such as family problems, troubled relationship with your dad or any other problems in your life that may make her behave this way? If there isn't and she's always been like this, then it could be a problem within herself, and how she is as a person. I understand that you may be in the right sometimes, and want to express that or get her to see how you feel, but if she is one that doesn't listen then it's not going to work. You could talk to your dad about it, but he'll more than likely back your mum up, because of the whole 'you're the child, we're the parents' thing. Unfortunately, until you move out and are seen in their eyes as a 'mature and independant person', then there isn't much you can do but put up (I don't mean the hitting you part, you need to talk to her or your dad about that, and ask to not resort to hitting you, how ever lightly, when you have an argument) with it, unless you can afford to move out now. To avoid those situations you could try not to say anything, as hard as it is and as much in the right you may be, or go out with friends more.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2009): I don't know, maybe it means she's looking for some care and attention from her loved ones? Maybe by saying that it's cold all she really wanted to hear was "Cold? Really? Ok, shall I turn on the heater for you, mom?".
A bit of kindness and care can go a long way.
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