He can be selfish and occasionally womanizes -- how can I move on?

A female age 41-50, anonymous writes:

How do I move on from my 8 1/2 year relationship? I am 44 hes 48. I'm so exhausted and depressed I don't know what to do. I would love a new start somewhere but feel stuck. Afraid to make too many changes because of the economy. My kids are grown and my boyfriend of eight 1/2 years will not in anyway commit really. We have had our share of good and bad times.... I have helped him through many health problems among other things. We have been going back and forth (LDR) every weekend cause he had to get a job out of state. I am close to his family, friends, kids. He always introduces me as his girlfriend. I recently helped him recup after minor heart surgery. Afterward we started making plans for a vacation in which he says he will pay for most. Now it's getting close to us going away and he wants more money. Which i don't have my business is struggling. He makes very good money btw. I have been taking scuba diving lessons and paying for them because he wanted us to scuba dive together. Also he notified me he has a job interview in a location where we both always wanted to live, so i said if he gets the job we can share a place as we planned. But he says to me he's not sure now he might want to date other women if he gets the job there. But we can have separate places and still see each other there because he still wants me in his life? After saying this he sees I get really mad and upset starts trying to hug me and kiss me? I just left him this morning from his place did not say a word as i left. He can be selfish and he goes through his periodical womanizing stages. Which I can't seem to tolerate any longer.

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