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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend and I are together but my sudden problem is - I think that I NEED him. I don't really have many friends anymore. Everyone went their own ways for college and such. He is majoring in Aerospace Engineering and I am majoring in Social Working. I think because of the $20k - $50k gap in between the yearly income makes me feel like I depend on him financially. But we're not even to that stage yet. We're in our first stage. WHY do I feel this way? Nobody needs someone else to live. Except children of course. But, well. I am 20 years old going on 21. Why do I feel like I need this guy. We've been only dating for seven months! Please help. I need advice on how to stop feeling this way. I think I lack having fun with friends. Reply to this Question
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (1 September 2009):
Yes, you're right. I'm sure you just want some affirmation that what you're feeling is correct. When he's all you have, then you begin to feel that you need him because what else do you have? So yes, reconnect with some old friends, try to make some new ones, and get involved in other things you enjoy. A lot of the time, guys can sense when you need them, then they start to pull away, then you'll be left with nothing. So definitely put yourself out there, you'll be much happier.
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