A
female
age
26-29,
*hickchick
writes:Hello.So, I was wondering if you could give me some advice.My boyfriend and I have been together for four months now and have been very strong together. I know I'm young but don't worry I am not doing anything illegal or anything I will regret, not anytime soon either!Anyway, his ex girlfriend has been flirting with him inforont of me and talking about times when they were together, again infront of me.My boyfriend doesn't notice it much or does he like it and not want it to change? I'm just quite confused really. I saw them walking with eachother the other day laughing and getting on, but I'm not sure if it was OVER getting on. I would never flirt with someone in front of their girlfriend or at all if they had a girlfriend, maybe thats just me?I was just wondering what you can suggest me to do?I have already confronted him but nothing happened by it.Thankyou Very Much.x
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reader, Who  +, writes (22 April 2009):
 Well, do you want to know if your boyfriend notices and likes the flirting, or do you want him not respond?If you want him not to respond, and have already confronted him and it did not work, you could try writing him (e-mail, note, etc.) Something like “Your ex is flirting with you and I don’t like it. She says [give a few examples of what she says]. If you goal is to upset me you can flirt back at her. If you like me and want me to be happy you should ignore her.”The idea is to make him understand what you feel without getting your thoughts lost in a discussion or argument.A few things to keep in mind:- You are not in a relationship with his ex, so you don’t have a say it what she does.- How two people in a relationship behavior is a give-and–take process. I’m sure there are a few thing you do he does not like; he accepts some of these and tells you about others.- Most people go through several relationships in their lives, including several break-ups. Some people get back with their ex's, sometimes foe good, sometimes only to break up again.Good luck and hope this helps.
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