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*lowerdoll
writes:Hi, i am a 38 year old female and after a two year relationship with a guy that i really care for a lot we have decided to take a break as we have no sex life, in fact the last time we had sex was May 08. He tended to go missing for periods of time and then turn up with not a bother on him after. I suggested that maybe he should go for counselling for depression or talk to his doctor in case he needed some medical help, He turned 40 in Feb and he said he didn't want any fuss so i organised a helicopter trip for him, bought him a computer and broadband pay as you go, i paid for two months up front. He was so delighted with the presents, however, a did not see him for nearly two weeks after, he came one night and as this is a regular pattern i felt very annoyed. Anwyay he asked me to help me with something which took all night to complete. I did that and ran him a bath in the morning so he could relax before going to work. We both left for work and the long and short of it is that i did not hear from him again for two weeks. I was very upset at him and called him and asked was there any reason for him not contacting me, he said no, then he said he needed a bit of time to sort his head out. he said 2 weeks, i agreed to that and it is now 6 weeks since then. I rang him yesterday and he said that he needed more time and thought it best for us not to be in contact during that. He also said that he has not given any thought to us being together or not in the last 6 weeks. He is now on anti depressents. Am i wasting my time. May sound stupid but my head is so wrecked, i dont know what to think
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2009): he is not that into you - just move one. find someone who will be.
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reader, flowerdoll +, writes (22 April 2009):
flowerdoll is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for ye're responses. I am going to be honest, i have tried the moving on thing. I even went on a date with a lovely guy, however, he worried me a bit as i have only met him 3 times and he maintains he is falling in love with me. I told him about my ex and now he is playing the clever card, he is saying that lets us just be friends and no one will get hurt. I dont think i should have dated because now i feel like a prize bitch, a guy i know for 2 years that obviously thinks little or nothing of me and a i guy i have met 3 times who says he thinks a lot of me and i feel a bit worried about him talking about love after 3 meetings. Do i just need a kick in the arse of are my worries genuine, truth is i do not know which way to turn.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2009): yup - something else must be going on (duoh - genius me) your choice is either stick it out, drag him to counselling or treatment etc.
or dump him and find someone who will appreciate you more. there are much more honest people out there and you deserve that attention (not right word, respect maybe?). if he can't give it - you go find it. don't waste your life on him.
Star.x.
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reader, Multipartner dreamer  +, writes (21 April 2009):
you sound like a great catch. And this guys sounds like someone you want in your life. It also sounds like he has issues, esp. with depression, or something. Its gotta be tough.
I personally would cut my losses now, and move on.
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