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writes:I need more advice please especially from people who have actually been there done that type of thing.... ok so is been about 2 weeks now my bf and I broke up, I went to the club this weekend and found him there with another girl, of course I fought her and ended up fighting him as well (felt bad for her afterward)... I was so terribly hurt and could not stop crying, then he called me after we left the club and was telling he's sorry and that she's ony a co-worker but I'm so angry at him. I told him I don't want nothing to do with him... I changed my number and I told him not look for me at all... I really want to just move on, I love him yes, I care for him yes, but I just can't forgive him for what he did to me at all not just this weekend but thru out our whole relationship. I am so heart broken and emotinaly unstable... I know keeping myself busy, time will heal but I need a little bit more than that. I cry sometimes when I'm just doing something and I start remembering and then I cry. Ugh I hate what he did to me. I hate how I feel inside... help please!!
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reader, PrincessSarah  +, writes (22 April 2009):
 i feel for you as break ups are hard but the important thing to remember is that things WILL get better. ive felt this way before and i was in a mentally abusive relationship, i felt i couldnt live without him and i did things im not proud of. but you need to put this bad experience behind you and move on with your life. tell others how you feel and dnt try to supress these feelings. talk things over with your ex and clear the air, youll feel better afterwards. i hope everything works out for you
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2009): i agree with Satindesire - i didn't notice that when i first read the question (probably why i was rubbish in exams)
fighting in this way you only loose. It only takes one hit or a slip or a bang on the head as the person moves to kill them. Don't. You didn't achieve anything by being violent.
Star.x.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionaww thanks guys!!! im so emotional reading some of these almost made me cry..lol really appriciate ...thanks for the hugs thats what i need....and well yes he was not my boyfriend, but i dont if thats ever happened to you (satindesire) but when u have been with some for so long have build a friendship, relationship shared a life together is extremely hard to see some you love wit all ur heart with some on else after we just broke up...i know i did what i had to do...fightin them both was my option and im glad i did it ...well atleast after i hit him so many times...but i do still appriciate ur advice thanks!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2009): Ok hug. You are doing the right things - it hurts (its supposed to) really if he is seeing someone else, then he isn't that in to you. So you have done the right thing by splitting up, it would have happened eventually- maybe in less spectacular fashion, but it would have.
you are far to bright to let this have continued. So how to fix you. you are doing the right things - keep your head busy. Your heart has nothing to do with it. (I am going to be lazy now) please see this post and my reply http://www.dearcupid.org/question/what-will-i-do-without-her-in-my.html
it might help.
If you cant find away to stop hurting, why not become a song writer? there is good money in it? (that was a little smile)
stop thinking of him. you did good and got out a problem relationship before it blew you up.
Hugs Star.x.
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