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writes:I have been in this realationship for the past 4 years. I have given my all to this guy, I had to change my ways just so we could be happy. He has been everything I ever wanted in a man. Last year I caught him cheating with a girl from outside our town. I felt like a piece of me was gone. He was seeking forgivesness cause I loved him I gave in, after that everything was back to normal we were happy again everything was fine until 2 months ago he started to be distance. Strange calls, smss, his behaviour changed towards me, 3 days ago I have found him again with another girl. I don't know how to feel. I feel used in same way, Do you think this guy deserves a second chance? I am very hurt, I don't need him in my life any more. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2009): i knw how you feel dear i myself jst got cheated on by the love of my lyf and i gave her a second chance! everyday i live in fear that she might be at it again! for u its worse bcoz hes done it again! i say screw hm and move on!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2009): i think you will deffinately be better off without this person, he was lucky enough to get the first chance off you never mind a second one, and did he learn? no he went out and did the same thing again!
If you dont want to carry on being cheated on and hurt then leave him standing, let him see what he has lost.
best of luck to you, there is better out there waiting, go get it girl xxx
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reader, 2blueyez  +, writes (21 April 2009):
I will tell you what I told my daughter who is 21. Never change yourself to meet the expectations of a man. Only change something about yourself if you feel it is an improvement and you want to do it. From my experience, and ending my 3rd marriage, No! do not give him any more chances and do not give him an explanation when you break up. He will know because he already knows what he did. My 3rd husband, the love of my life, we have been together a total of 13 years. We dated for 3 and then got married. Five years ago I found out he had an affair and got her pregnant. Two weeks later I found out about a second person he was cheating with and got her pregnant also. He wasn't just my boyfriend, he was my husband. Talk about hurt. He was my everything. I still see his smile ,I still feel his touch , I still hear him laugh. I still know I can't go back to him because I know it would happen again. In my case it is worse than yours, at least there are no children to deal with. Let it go. For yourself.
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reader, Lani702 +, writes (21 April 2009):
 You answered your own question, honey. You don't need him in your life anymore. Those days when he was "everything you ever wanted in a man" are gone. You'll be tempted to want to stay with him so everything will go back to the way it was. It won't. Those days are gone. Cut your losses now before he hurts you yet again and move on.
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