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writes:hi, i need some sound advice pls. i have been in a relationship for 13 years the first year i ended it twice but the second time i found out i was pregnant so we gave it another go he asked me to marry him and i said yes. for the first 4 years i put everything i could into making it work but i lost all my friends as my life revolved around him but he prefered to be in the pub or working at his hobby i was very lonely i asked him if we could have another baby after our first was born he said yes in a few years so i waited then he said the same again i was desperate i begged him so many times he said the relationship wasnt strong enough but for me it was i really loved him. Then i asked him when did he want to get married he said he didnt he thawt it was the rite thing to do at the timeI cried all the time i tried to tell him how unhappy i was but he said now look what youve done to yourself and went to bed, there have been other things too if we went out and i wanted to come home he told me not to make a scene. he called me a p***k in front of his mates he kicked the door in when i wouldnt let him in because he was drunk. he said everyone i know are down and outs i didnt work because i looked after our daughter so if i asked for money he would say no but wuld give it for sexual favours. iv seen councellors but they dont seem to do any good because i dont know what i want anymore. we are living apart now and he says he has changed, i cant stand him touching me and i cant even kiss him without wanting to cry but i cant walk away i wondered if anyone could give me any ideas what i could do to put a stop to it. i am strong with everything else but this is ruining my life i am 30 now and still want more kids but im scared im guna run out of time if i dont sort this sorry its s long xxx
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reader, Carrie191204 +, writes (21 April 2009):
I don't really know what else to say other than,Be strong and let him go!!!!You deserve better,and your child does also not deserve to be in the middle of this!!You deserve someone who loves and respects you!And at 30 you are very much still young enough to meet someone new and have more children!Go on girl,live your life and be happy :)x
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (21 April 2009):
The only way you are going to stop him from doing this to you is if you walk out and start again.
You say you want kids and if you stay with him it's not going to happen, and even if it does you'll have to whore yourself out for money to feed them.
You know what you need to do and that is leave, take your kids and sleep on your parent's sofa for a few weeks, get a job and get somewhere to rent. Either that or go to the Council and see if they can give you a house.
You've wasted nearly decade on this guy, please don't waste any more time.
Good Luck!! xx
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