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writes:in febraury, my (ex)girlfriend broke up with me although sayin everything would be the same except no sex. she wasnt normal (i guess cuz she missed me) and we havnt spoke to each other since then. as time went by, typical things have happened such as she tryin to get me jealous etc etc, and up until yesterday i saw her sittin on a guys lap.at first i was very angry. my heart was beatin fast and i was gettin hot inside. but then i calmed before confronting them. i spoke to him first about work, then i spoke to her (askin y she never told me in the beginning), she replied by sayin "told u what!" , like as if nothing is goin on between them but i could see the guy had one or two love bites, then i told her "atleast im not cheap" (cuz she is the sort of girl that seeks attention from guys, and eventhough thats a bad trait about her, i loved her nonetheless). so i left. for the rest of that day i could not study. i felt good and bad. i felt used. we done lots of things together.atleast now i know i can move on but i love her, but i also want to punish her. i have been out clubbin and i havnt been interested in any other girl. i've receieved 80 and 90 percents in my courseworks and i dnt even care. i feel angry, and i try to convince myself she isnt havin sex with him, jus to make myself happy.i need some advice such as what should i do if i bump into them again etc etc?
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (21 April 2009):
Sweetie, you have to accept that now it's over, she can do what she wants with any other guy and you can't go and be horrible to her.
She isn't yours any more. She's gone.
If you see her again then just keep your distance. You don't need to waste your feelings on her any more. Tell yourself you are above being one of those guys who stalks their Ex.
I know it's hard. My husband would tell me how he would punch holes in walls in his house when he was your age and then have to shove a load of newspaper and poly filler in there so his parents wouldn't find out.
If you feel angry then head to the gym or a local boxing club and beat the hell out of a punch bag. It'll make you feel better trust me.
The fact you are doing well on your coursework is great, so put your mind into how you are going to leave all this behind and go and be the best in what ever career you choose.
I'm not saying to move on any faster than you want to or can, but you can't let these feelings control you and make you do stupid things because you are better than that.
Leave her to it and know that you just need time.
Good Luck!! xx
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