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writes:Hey everyone, I'm not sure if I'm "RIGHT or WRONG" I'm a married women and have a child 4 years old. My problem is my husband thinks that he is the boss in our marriage, whatever he says he thinks it should go, ok like when it was his birthday, I got up in the morning and went to him and tell him I'll take the blame for everything that's going wrong in our marriage just let us stop the fighting, he was like yes, then at night I cook, bake ect... for him because he didn't wanna go out, after the cooking and baking I told him I'm going and shower so I tell him put the child to sleep and he said don't go and talk with mother just go to the shower and come back, but I forgot that he said that so I went and I start talking to his mother for about 10 minutes. After coming back he starts getting on, so I said stop, I just was talking to her and it's no big thing in that I'm home and it's your mother and than we both start arguing again. I'm fed up, I don't know what to do. Again I tried everything, even taking the blame when things go wrong. Please help me, I can't live without him and again I can't live with him. Tell me what you think and what I should do, I'm really fed up. :( Reply to this Question
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reader, LOVLY +, writes (23 April 2009):
LOVLY is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAww thanks to all of you for the advice!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2009): go to counseling. Try to make it work. He sounds very controlling. If that doesn't work. Move on. It may be hard but you don't deserve someone telling you what to do 24/7 EVER
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reader, Love4Life  +, writes (21 April 2009):
 Firt of all a relationship take two people. You can't keep taking the blame every time something goes wrong unless you are wrong. He sounds like a controling man witch isn't bad when you can't decide on dinner and he decides for you... but if he decides and wins every conversation where's the two. You can't always be wrong. You have to stand your ground. If you don't then he'll always think he's right even when he's wrong and you will eventually not give a dam and say F it. I don't recommend you let your steam out on his mom if its about your marriage. I think a marriage should stay between husband and wife or relationship stay between man and woman. If he has his mom talking in his ear about things he wanted private he could feel betrayed about his personal life. None of us men are perfect but we do want our better half's to try to work our problems out through us not a third party. If you have to vent, vent through a girl friend not a relation or another man. We men are dogs by nature and will try to take a lamb that feels lost. If you do vent through a guy friend make sure he's gay. Beware of a man who can't see your side and refuses to be wrong. Stand up now or you could always be wrong and again a relationship is about two people not one.
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (21 April 2009):
 You need to drag him off to relationship counselling! You both need to find out where you are going wrong, he is too controlling and you are too accepting. It sounds like little things happening in your marriage are being turned into reasons for fights.
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