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Archived questions from: September, 2011 (see latest in Marriage problems category)

Marriage problems: Help and advice

Husband accidentally left message on my phone calling me a dumb bitch!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4016 days ago

30 September 2011 (F) - my husband accidentally left a voicemail on my cell phone where he is talking to his friends and saying " the dumb bitch won't answer her phone" I feel very hurt I never thought he would refer to me as a dumb bitch and I feel disrespected and he ...

I'm his mother, his maid, his cook and his sex toy.... How do I deal/let him know?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4831 days ago

30 September 2011 (F) - I haven't been married to my husband for very long (just over 1 year), and we don't have kids, but I still feel like I'm his cook, his maid, his sex toy, and his mother... I mean, he's more of a clean freak than I am, but I still like a clean house. ...

We work together, fight all the time. Should we get a divorce?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4822 days ago

30 September 2011 (M) - I'm married for 4 years and since there i had good moments and bad moments too, like every marriage is. But the last months it's getting hard keep the balance. Work, finance, family, relationship, pressure to have kids, i dont know if i'm up to ...

My husband blames fertility issues on me being over weight! Couldn't it just as well be HIM that is the problem?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4831 days ago

30 September 2011 (F) - Hello all, I have been with my man for 5 years, married for almost three. We havent been actively trying to have a baby but we havent not been trying either. For years I thought my husband had issues downstairs, and I found out I have fertilit...

Should I work in another city than my wife? Will distance bring us closer? I don't want to go!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4830 days ago

30 September 2011 (M) - Before I come to my problem let me take you to its history. I was 11 and fell in love with 9 years old girl who happened to be orphan living in orphanage in front of our old house in our hometown. We would meet in the park and played there...

What type of men am I dealing with?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4831 days ago

30 September 2011 (F) - Hello, I was wondering if anyone had some insight into what type of personality or type of men I am dealing with in my life. My husband has cheated on me behind my back for 5 years with other women. When confronted by me about it he verbally abus...

I kissed another man. How do I tell my husband, who has been away for work reasons. Should I tell my husband?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4829 days ago

30 September 2011 (F) - I kissed a man at a conference a week ago... I've been married for 7 years. My sex drive is WAY higher than my husband and this has been a struggle our whole marriage. Every four to eight weeks on average... And nothing while I was pregnant. I ...

He says he is falling in love with me but that he can't leave his family. How can I let go of him and end our work affair?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4829 days ago

30 September 2011 (F) - I need some advice. I am a teachers assistant at an elementary school. I have been working with the same man for the last three years. We are both married with 3 kids. We have formed a great friendship and seem like ideal mates for each other. W...

I want a legal marriage, but he's being distant!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4833 days ago

29 September 2011 (F) - hi please i need a help.ive been with my guy for almost 4yrs.we even have a boy of 2yrs.just recently he talked about marrying me the traditional way which i refused.i wanted the legal type so that i will be secured.but he also refused.since then he ...

If I leave it means moving back in with my parents and having no money with 2 young children, but I know he will never change if I stay.....what should I do?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4833 days ago

28 September 2011 (F) - Hi, I have been with my partner for 5 years and married for 2 months, we have two children together ages 1 and 2. He is in the army so when we got married i moved in with him, 3 hours drive away from my home, i gave up my home and to be near m...

Have I just forgotten what is fair? I feel like we are not married even though we have been for 3 years!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4833 days ago

28 September 2011 (F) - Forgotten what normal is... My second Husband and I have been married for three years together for four we have a two year old son between us and each have two other children from previous marriages. Our relationship has been utter turmoil, w...

Everybody loves my husband except me!

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4833 days ago

27 September 2011 (F) - Hi Cupids. My husband of 16 years is perfect by everybody else's standards. He is well liked by my family and friends, a good husband, a good father and best friend. I know that logically he is a good choice for me. He has stood by me during goo...

How should a childless step dad who earns less than his wife be involved in family finances

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4834 days ago

27 September 2011 (F) - My new husband who earns less than me never contributes anything more than a share for himself only, even when he has extra cash. I have two children and two dependants and earn alot more than him. He has no interest to find out even how much i pay ...

Love triangles. I keep trying to do the 'right' thing but it keeps hurting more and more. What can I do?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4834 days ago

27 September 2011 (F) - First it's important to know that I have never had this occur before, never thought it even slightly possible, and hope it never happens again. I'm 35 and 3 years ago I moved workplaces. I was assigned a mentor, B, who was great in showing me the ...

If he's not a breast man, why did he notice hers?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4829 days ago

26 September 2011 (F) - Hi, I just want to know if I am over reacting or if my husband has not been respectful. My husband never touches my breasts and every time I ask why he just says that is him and he is not attracted to women’s breasts. I have been suffering a...

Is it irrational of me to be jealous of my husband getting drunk with another girl?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4834 days ago

26 September 2011 (?) - Does this mean anything? Over the weekend my husband was playing an online game with his friends on xbox live. It was a drinking game, and I was able to hear their conversation through the t.v. It was him, his male friend, and two girls. One ...

Is my husband just joking when he says he wants threesomes?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4834 days ago

25 September 2011 (F) - so i(23) been married to my husband(31) for 7 months now, when we went to a club and partied with friends, my husband (drunk) jokingly said "did you find someone to have a threesome with yet?" im like "haha no" ( im drunk ).. as he said that, i ...

I can't have sex with my husband because his fantasy is his secretary!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4836 days ago

25 September 2011 (F) - my husband fantasize his secretry so i am very upset when they are alone i feel they are involved in sex thats why i cannot have normal sex with my husband i am very upset what should i do...

The man I loved made a complete volte-face after marriage and my life is hell with him. What do I do?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4831 days ago

25 September 2011 (F) - I kindly need your opinion regarding my marriage situation.I have been married for 5 years with the man I loved with all my heart.We've been together for 11 years prior to marriage(since high school).We couldn't marry and live together because of ...

Should I call this girl who I think my husband had an affair with? He says he didn't cheat.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4835 days ago

25 September 2011 (F) - Hello everyone! Well I need advice. I believe my husband has had an affair, over an 8 month period. I have asked him 3 different times, and he has denied any wrong doing. He became irate and said that men and women can be friends without having sex....

My wife has told me she is disappointed in the way I proposed to her

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4834 days ago

24 September 2011 (M) - Hi I proposed to my now-wife a year before we got married. When I asked her, she started to cry, but not because of joy. She said yes, when I repeated the question. Later I found out, that she is very disappointed by the way I asked. We now are marr...

Is my relationship destined for doom, or can it be fixed?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4837 days ago

24 September 2011 (F) - Well, I have been with my husband for 5 years, we have 2 amazing kids. In the past, I believe he has cheated on me several times, I could never get over it then though he hadn't admitted to it. I know in my heart he has, I had reliable sources. Any...

Should I confess how I feel in a non-confrontational way?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4835 days ago

23 September 2011 (?) - I have been struggling with this for a while. And so I just want one more bit of advice. Should I confess that I am jealous of my husband's best friend and this other girl, who is also a mutual friend? And that I feel insecure? I'm jealous of ...

I like to watch her masturbate, is this normal?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4835 days ago

23 September 2011 (M) - [note: please do not write questions in all caps] I like to watch my wife masturbate and she likes to watch me. I'm very small in size, maybe 6 inches hard. She tells me it doesn't matter. It bothers me and I just hope she's truthful. I perf...

My brother in law is a womaniser--- Should I tell my sister about this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4838 days ago

23 September 2011 (F) - We are indians. My sister got married to an American Indian man.This was his second marrige and he hid that from us. My sister came to know about it during hers immigration process. However, she accpeted that man. She came to US in 2008.Fortunately, ...

Could my hubby be straying?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4836 days ago

23 September 2011 (F) - Hi everyone Me and my hubby are very close and still very much in love after almost 22 years...He is the kind of man that wants to hold my hand,always touch me and always tell me how how much he loves me.our sex life is better then ever before...

Husband has cancer but cheated on me when I was asleep nxt door with his kids

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4835 days ago

23 September 2011 (F) - well hello everyone i dont know were to start and i have never postd before i just dont know what to do, im a mother of 5 ages 11 ,7,3,2 and 8month old baby me and my husband have been togeather 16 years and we have had our problems alot actually ...

Should I pull the plug on this marriage?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4833 days ago

23 September 2011 (F) - should we end this marriage?I've been with my husband for six years,it's like my life is over there's nothing to look forward to,sex is alway's the same no forplay no waiting for a woman to get horney,it's stick it in get off and dont worrie if ...

The reality of an open relationship is not so good

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4833 days ago

22 September 2011 (F) - Hello - My husband and I have been married for 8 years. We have talked about an open relationship and I thought this was a good idea. I had sex with another man a couple of months ago. It was only one time and it truly was just sex. It was ...

Empty nest, trust issues, communication issues ...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4837 days ago

22 September 2011 (F) - I have been in a rocky marriage for 24 years, broke up last year for 8 months and returned to him. But now he is texting a woman that he admitted have a sexual relationship with. I confronted him after finding the text messages and now he angry at ...

How can I help my wife to see that her partying with her gay and straight male friends is ruining our marriage?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4839 days ago

22 September 2011 (M) - Hi, i'm 28, my wife 27, been married for 18 months now. Our marriage has been good up until now; she's a lovely wife and a kind, caring person. However, she's been going out partying far too much with her gay friends, and refuses to invite M...

Husband left and parents want to arrange a marriage, is this right?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4833 days ago

22 September 2011 (F) - Hi I am a 33 year old female and have a very complicated problem. My husband used to threaten all the time to leave when we had a fight. I would always request, beg and pacify. The day I didnt he left home that was 3 months back. I tried to reach hi...

Will marrying someone who cares about me help me forget my 31 year old married lover ?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4839 days ago

22 September 2011 (F) - well i am in love with a man whose 31 years old while i am early 20s, sadly hes married and has a child.so i want to get rid of him but cant.so i am thinking of getting married to someone.at least i will have a husband and a home with whom i ll sha...

Does these seem like normal husband behavior? Or is he embarrassed by me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4839 days ago

21 September 2011 (?) - I am curious about this. I know my husband loves me but I feel that he is embarrassed by me. Here is my reason: he doesn't seem to want me to speak or hang out with any of his friends (both male and female,) and behaves as if when I do spea...

My husband is always suspicious of me

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4840 days ago

21 September 2011 (F) - Hi. How can i manage a long distance relationship. I am married. My husband is constantly checking up on me. What am i doing? With who? How many minutes or hours did i spent at the shops? Etc. He is always suspicious. Help...

I'm really in love with my husband but I want to leave!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4839 days ago

21 September 2011 (F) - I am in my early 20s. I have been married for 2 years and a couple months now. My husband is in his 30s. He's a great man, but until now not a good husband. Our marriage before a couple of months ago was extremely hard on me. More than twice a week ...

My husband had a 2 hr long, intimate conversation with a girl and I cannot believe this is happening to me. What do I do now?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4840 days ago

21 September 2011 (F) - First of all, I would like to thank everybody that takes the time to answer my question. I would just like to know what people consider cheating in a marriage, or if anyone has been in the same situation. I am 24yrs old, married for t...

What's wrong with my husband? Is he insecure?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4839 days ago

20 September 2011 (F) - my husband used to rebuke girls(when he was 24-26) who would reject him or didnt consider him as gods gift to women,calling them the C word or sexually abusing some girl whom he fancied and she didnt return the gesture.then he would hit on gir...

He finds a way to let me know that the way I do things is incorrect, and his family's way is the correct way!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4842 days ago

20 September 2011 (F) - I am 32 years old married for two years as of December 2011. I have been dealing with a situation where I have been basically going back and forth with my husband for the last two months everytime he brings up a topic that his aunt or mother has ...

I need some insight into the female mind!

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 4840 days ago

19 September 2011 (M) - I need some insight into the female mind. I am away from home right now. Been away for about 4 weeks, and I have two more to go. My wife and I video chatted today, but the whole day she has been short on calls/texts. She seemed super tired (yaw...

Financial crisis! Do you think things will get better?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4833 days ago

19 September 2011 (F) - I have been in a relationship for about 9 years and newly married 1 year. No children. My husband is 27 Recently, I have been questioning my marriage due to financial concerns. My husband currently does not have a job (he quit the last one in July). ...

Am I obliged to tell his wife the details about the sex we had?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4841 days ago

19 September 2011 (F) - A few months back I slept with my married boss twice. We got on great in work and in general, one thing led to another and we ended up sleeping together. Things were awkward and a mishap in communication led to a second 'mistake'. We agreed it would ...

Losing trust... am I over-reacting?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4842 days ago

19 September 2011 (?) - Over the weekend my husband got new parts for his computer. He didn't realize he was going to have to re-install his whole operating system and did so without doing a backup. Once it was too late he said, "I bet I lost somethings." But he doesn't ...

If God made men to live with women, why both are so incompatible sometimes?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4842 days ago

19 September 2011 (M) - I live a great love life with my wife, she's the answer of God to me, i always remember that. But why marriage is so hard sometimes? If God made men to live with women, why both are so incompatibles sometimes?...

The danger of porn

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4842 days ago

19 September 2011 (M) - What do you think about porn addiction? Many marriages are ending up because porn, prostitution....

Idealistic Love VS Realistic Love

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3276 days ago

19 September 2011 (F) - Idealistic love is attraction, intimacy, perfection. Realistic love is attraction AND attachment, intimacy AND commitment and perfection found in imperfection. Everyone wants to be in idealistic love. Fact: It only happens in fantasies, movie...

What went wrong here? How did things change so suddenly?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4842 days ago

18 September 2011 (F) - Hello to anyone who reads this. I have heard this is a good site for advice so here goes... Met someone and hit off big time. Always recieving texts and asking to meet them. Saw each other everyday and spent most nights at their house. Met f...

My husband admitted he married me to get into Canada!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4833 days ago

18 September 2011 (F) - I've been married to my husband for 13 years now. We first met when I was on holiday in Edinburgh, Scotland back in 1995 - it was a great holiday, I'd always wanted to visit Britain, in fact I still go every so often, to this day. Our marriage...

How do I let go of the bitterness towards my husband's affair?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4841 days ago

18 September 2011 (F) - My husband of 6 years told me 2 years ago that he never loved me,this is when i discovered he was having an affair. he said so many times that i forced myself on him. Somehow we got out of the situation, but he never apologised to me. I am still ...

My wife has started telling lots of lies. She I confront her about it?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4844 days ago

17 September 2011 (M) - I always believed my wife to be a very honest person. She would never steal, cheat, or otherwise be unethical. She works with large amounts of money as part of her job. I have never really caught her in a lie to me and we have been together...