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36-40,
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writes:hi please i need a help.ive been with my guy for almost 4yrs.we even have a boy of 2yrs.just recently he talked about marrying me the traditional way which i refused.i wanted the legal type so that i will be secured.but he also refused.since then he has really changed.he travels a lot due to the nature of his work.but he doesnt call.ive been calling all the time.he hardly come home to see us..he doesnt care.he doesnt show any interest in me.its like iv been trying to maintain this relationship.so i have decided to stop calling him for a while and then watch his reactions.i love this guy but i dont want to do something which i might regret in future because with the traditional marriage this man can marry as much as he want.which i can tolerate.so what do i do?is there anything i can do to convince him to register our marriage?or should i leave him?i want to do the right thing so please help. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2011): give time. you have shown some mistrust ( as he sees it ) . so it will take time to adjust and come to decision. this is basic of relationship, do not expect other to agree the monet you say so. it is all about adjustments.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2011): If he cared about your feelings, he would have gotten a legal marriage with you already. Maybe you should ask him why he doesn't want a legal marriage. But then again, judging from what you've said, clearly, he doesn't care about you and like what you've said, lost interest in you. Since you have a child, maybe you should try working things out for a couple of weeks/months? If things really don't, then you're really better off without a heartless guy like him. Your child needs a role model, not a father who doesn't care. It might sound harsh but it's for the better of everyone. Good luck!
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