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writes:What do you think about porn addiction? Many marriages are ending up because porn, prostitution.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2011): To me, porn should be images/videos of people you do not know in real life. It should be used in moderation. If you have images of people you know outside of your spouse/partner, then it is a problem.
Prostitution is wrong for many reasons. First these women are often abused, addicted to drugs, and lead very difficult lives. They often have STDs which they pass along, too.. There are also places all over the world where women and children are captured and forced into prostitution. It is a problem most people are unaware of.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2011): you cannot lump porn and prostitution in to the same cateorgory - one is watching films/images, there is no infidelity, it is just fantasy. Porn is okay if it is used in moderation, I would not want to be with someone who was addicted ot it. Using prostitutes is an act of infidelity, it is a physical act of having sex - not ok if you are in a relationship.
I use porn sometimes as I have a very high sex drive and my partner is not always around, but when he is we have a fantastic sex life. He uses it too, when I'm not around. I dont mind.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (19 September 2011):
 I think people who had never had good sex, and think they will never had good sex will be more prone to porn addiction. Good sex and passion is our birthright, and it is up to us to find it, to be fulfilled. Porn is an escape from doing all the things like hooking a person up, and risk being rejected. Porn is easy, it's instant gratification.
Marriages are not ending because of porn. It's ending because of marrying the wrong person, mismatched chemistry and poor communication. A good marriage consists of passion, intimacy and connection. A marriage without good sex or sex that fizzles out early is not a real marriage at all.
I would rather be with someone who had watched a lot of porn, got tired of it, and also someone who had lived long enough to know what turns him on, rather than someone who is so pure and so restricted that he finds it hard to talk about sex. A suppressed person is more likely to get addicted.
My conclusion is that porn is not to blame for failed relationships. It is the division of the whore slut/virgin mother mentality. Like "a good lover can't be a good mother too" kind of thing. Ideally a wife is an aggressive business woman in the work place, a kind mother home, a lady in public and a slut in bed. For man, he is a CEO, a devoted father, husband, also a cowboy in bed. Good qualities have to match. If you don't think you deserve a perfect partner and you are happy to settle, then don't complain about your marriage, and don't watch porn as an escape.
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