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writes:I saw my boyfriend texting this other girl, and I thought nothing of it until I caught a glimpse at the end of the text, and he wrote love you to her. I know that she is not a family member and he told me that he was talking to a guy and not a girl. So sense he was fibbing, I got really worried. I think he is cheating on me, but I am not sure. I see him everyday, and I don't know when he would find the time to see her. Even if he isn't cheating on me, and she is just a friend, he shouldn't say love you to another girl. He should only say love you to me, unless it's a family member. Right?....I am just so confused, and I don't know what to think or do. I just want to know if I really should be worried, or am I making a big deal out of nothing. I need help....please.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (2 November 2009):
I have to disagree with Violet, "love you" to a girl that he said was a guy warrants some suspiscion. I think it's best to calmly call him out on it. Just tell him, "You know the other day when I asked who you were texting? Well I noticed that you wrote "love you" and that it wasn't to a guy. Can you explain that to me?" Or something to that effect. Don't let him turn it around on you that you were invading his privacy because obviously he's hiding something if he's not telling you the truth. You have a right to question your boyfriend on something like that, you don't want to go about your relationship like you're dumb and pretend/hope nothing is wrong.
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reader, Denizen  +, writes (2 November 2009):
 Like many of us, when confronted with hard evidence we refuse to believe it. We try to turn ourselves inside out thinking of other explanations. Your instinct is right.
What is wrong is the dishonesty. He can say I love you to as many people as he likes. The wrong is in the lie to you.
Remember people don't always live by our moral codes. He can have 20 girlfriends. He must however be open about it so you can decide if you accept his behaviour. I suspect that you won't.
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reader, Eyespy17 +, writes (2 November 2009):
He said he text "I love you" to a guy? How do you know for sure that it's a girl? (Did you look at the phone after?)
If it's definitely a girl, and he's lying about the "I love you" text, you have EVERY reason to be upset and assume he is cheating or planning on cheating.
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reader, Violet009  +, writes (2 November 2009):
 well... I disagree with the he should only say 'love you' to you. Why cant he love his friends? I dont think you should be making a big deal out of it. Have you asked him? Why not just talk about it?
I say love you to my guy friend that isnt my boyfriend. Hes a very close friend. My boyfriend also says love you to his girl friends.
If you are that worried then just talk to him instead of creating things in your head.
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