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writes:Alright, so I happen to like my brother's friend, sort of. I mean, I've met him once, at her house, but prior to that my friend actually told me that she'd showed him my picture and that he thought I was cute, and that I was his type and everything (we're into the same things, that kind of stuff...we both even have bears on our cell phones what the heck) When I was leaving her house, he said bye to me and even added me on facebook.Ah, but here's the thing. There are so many problems that I think this'll never work. For one thing, there's our huge age difference - he's 3 years older than me, which is very significant since I'm a sophomore in hs, and he's a freshman in college. Then, there's the whole experience thing - I've never had a boyfriend, once, and I know for sure that he's had a few. And lastly, my self esteem - I'm really ugly. I don't kid; sometimes, I feel really pretty but then I kind of get shot down a lot (my family tells me I'm fat, my friends tell me I'm manly), I've got bad skin and I don't dress well. Meanwhile, he's really insanely pretty; he's more feminine than me, and really skinny and well dressed and that kind of stuff.I dunno, maybe one meeting is too fast to decide whether I am in love or whatever, but I definitely want to get to know him better. (and yeah, my friend is cool with it, so no worries there I guess.) But I just don’t know how to proceed, ‘cause my lack of self esteem makes me too shy to even type something to him on facebook. So how do I do it, when I feel so...bad in comparison?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2009): Ok first things first
If you are unhappy about your self image.
Do something to change it. No one is going to do it for you
Second you family and friends think they mean well but they are jerks.
You are probably no where near as unatractive as you think you are
third. 3 years is nothing. My wife is 7 years younger than I am.
If he added you he wants to stay in touch that's the whole point of face book. Also it's not a wedding ring either. Don't get carried away :)
One other thing to consider, effeminite, well dressed, I'm not saying he is, but I'd put even money on him being into dudes. Don't let that discourage you he probably isn't 100% sure himself
your best bet is to take the plunge and say hi. Take controll of your own apperance. And let it evolve naturally.
Good luck!
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