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writes:hey, I'm 13 and i have known this one guy for nearly 3 years now and at one point in that time we sorta had a thing going on and ever since then i have not been able to get him out of my mind for anything i have tried other guys everything deleting his number but i know it by heart so i still end up texting him(oh yeah i forgot to mention why t tried to forget him well its because when we had that thing going on he ended it because i just all of a sudden get a girlfriend and ignored me) oh yeah may i mention that he is 17 and in July he will be 18. and my mom would freak if we did work out cause he has a tattoo ears pierced and he smokes. i need some major advice to get over him?? i don't know what to do i think about all that went on and just cry my eyes out at night and he don't even no how much i truly love him and its for real love not like all of my other relationships.. thanks for the help
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionno we didnt do anything past kissing at all he wasnt like that with me and i'm 14 now and to the first person that replied he is not in school or anything and we didnt do ANYTHING forreal..
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2009): I am sorry I have his age wrong, he is 18 not 19, but what I said still applies to someone of his age as well.
I hope nothing like this ocurred, but just in case I wanted you to be aware of it.
All the best. You will be fine, just don't have any more to do with him, OK?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2009): So you met this older guy when you were 10 and he was 16 and you have been in love, real love with him ever since.
And you had this "thing" going on, but he dumped you for another girl and now you want to know how to get over him.
Well, first off I am sorry that someone older who knows better took advantage of you, if the "thing" you are referring to is sexual touching, or sexual acts of any kind then what he did was against the law, having sex with a minor who is not of legal age.
If you were to report him for it he would be prosecuted and possibly put on a sex offenders list for the remainder of his life.
If those hard facts don't burst your bubble just a little bit and help you fall out of love, think about what I just told you here. The guy is 19, he should not be having a thing with a 13 year old baby. What older, more experienced boys and men do with young girls like you is first build up their trust in them so they can take advantage and then they scare you a little into not telling on them. If he didn't do any of those things, well then he is just a jerk who is playing with your feelings.....or maybe you are reading into something that just wasn't there.
It is hard for me to determine what exactly happened here because you do not provide much information and are rather cryptic about it. That in and of itself makes me think he possibly did touch you and you have been instructed not to tell. This is criminal behavior, he is not a good person and you should stay away from him.
A 19 year old has no business dating a 13 year old, tatoos aside, your mom would freak because he is too old. I think you should tell your mother, I think you need to be able to talk to your mother about boys and your feelings about boys and about questions you may have about sex or about this guy in particular. Don't shut your mom out because you think she will freak. She may get excited at first, but her main concern is you and your happiness and your safety. She is afterall responsible for you, give her the chance to help you and open up to her and talk to her about this.
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reader, fallingrace67 +, writes (2 November 2009):
Hi sweetie, this answer is coming from a person who was boy crazy and got my heart hurt all of the time when i was younger. I would cry and cry over boys that were older than me... and i thought i loved them, but now that i am older i look back and i think its silly, trust me when you're older so will you. I am also seventeen I'll be 18 in may and I wouldn't consider dating someone who was thirteen. You are in 8th grade right? and he is about to go off to college. You probably don't want to hear this, but i think you should spend time with your friends and enjoy being young. It doesn't last long. Please don't feel like i am putting you down, this message comes from someone who was in your shoes at thirteen, someone who learned to get out of ruts. good luck hunnie.
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