I'm getting tired of my boyfriend's friend! What should I do?

A female age 30-35, *elples writes:

I'm starting to get really agitated with my boyfriend's friend. Let me begin by saying I'm in an LDR. We are five hours away from each other. I have asked him to come to this trip that's two hours away for me and three hours away for him. He said yes, well, while he was bragging to his friends that's he's going to this scary event for Halloween, his friend invited himself! I know this friend because we use to be good friends at one point. My boyfriend asked if I wanted it to just be us or if his friend could come. His friend, I heard him in the background, said "I didn't ask! Tell her I AM coming." I wanted it to just be us, but I said sure because I don't want to be the type of girlfriend who just wants to hang out with her boyfriend or for her boyfriend to feel that I don't like his friends. Anyways, it turned out to be a group thing. My boyfriend's brother came and his date, and two of his other friends. Now this friend likes to boss both my boyfriend and his brother. They've known him for many years so they're like a pushover when it comes to him. I don't like being bossed around by someone who thinks they have control over everyone so when he was trying to do the same with me, I stood up for myself. For example, we waited at this ride that's there ALL year long. I thought it was pointless because we should just do the all the haunted houses that aren't there all the time and so did the other friend. But since friend #1 that I'm getting tired of is like the boss, everyone stayed. The other friend kept complaining and eventually it led up to friend #1 saying, "Everyone who wants (the other friends name) to stay, say I." Everyone said I except for me. He says to me, "Say I." I said, "I think you should do whatever you want." The other friend replies, "You too." So friend #1 basically kicks me out, "Then go. We don't want you here anyways." So as I walked away with the other friend. By the time that ride was over, the other friend and I were already waiting in one of the houses. The lines are very long which is why we didn't want to waste time waiting for a ride that's there all the time. I took this opportunity to ask the other friend, if they all really bug my boyfriend because I don't have sex with him. He said no, that they know not to mess with that especially when I'm so far away. So when the others regrouped with us, friend #1 starts joking about how my boyfriend doesn't "get any." The other friend said, "Don't try my friend like that." Friend #1 looks confused and says, "He knows I'm just joking." The other friend replies, "Not him, her." And the first friend is like, "How am I trying her?" And he said, "You're going to make her feel bad that she doesn't have sex with him." I guess he felt bad because earlier they were all making fun of my boyfriend for that which is why I asked the other friend that question. Anyways, that's not the end of it! My boyfriend was mad at me for leaving him so we weren't talking. While we waited for another haunted house, I heard friend #1 saying to my boyfriend, "You owe me $10!" And he's like, "For what?!" And friend #1 says, "I'll text it to you." By this time, I had a hunch he made a bet that my boyfriend and I would fight." When my boyfriend and I talked later on, I found out my hunch was right. I was so upset on the inside! And the last thing he did this weekend, when my boyfriend and I were saying good bye, friend #1 kept rushing us, "HURRY UP! We gotta go." We werent even saying good bye for five minutes. I'm seriously getting tired of his friend. My mom thinks I should either tell the friend off or tell my boyfriend that the next time we see each other I should tell him not to bring that friend along since he rather listen to him than me. But I don't like either of those options. And this isn't the first weekend that the friend does things like this.

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