A
male
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hey so there's this girl that I like and have only known her for around 6 months, she was a friend of a friend but has now become quite close to me. Every time we meet up on a night out with friends etc we really hit it off. The only problem is that she knows my ex and thinks i'm still hung up in her when i'm not.On a night out we both got a little drunk and ended up kissing (this girl i'm asking about, not my ex!) but then she seemed to pay me little attention for the rest of the night. She then told me that she does like me and has done for a while and she knows i like her, although whenever i've asked her to come out and do something in the past she always cancels on me!Do you think she likes me or is just confused? I really want to ask her out but i'm scared i'll push her away.
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reader, Lexie88  +, writes (2 November 2009):
 If she's genuine in her feelings for you and she wants to pursue something, you will not push her away if you ask her out. If she does back off it will just mean that she isn't that into you, even though she enjoys your company and flirting with you.
I think she likes you on some level but probably not enough to consider you relationship/boyfriend material. That explains why you hit it off and why she kissed you and it also explains why she has cancelled on you when you have asked her out. She likes you but not enough to go for it.
Women are not that confusing. If she really wanted to be with you she would have taken you up on your offer to go out. Your ex and anything else she comes up with is an excuse.
When a girl doesn't like you enough it's best if you stop pursuing her. She knows you like her and it makes her feel good to get your attention. Depending on what sort of a person she is, she might even use you to her advantage. Don't let that happen, be smart about it. If you like her and consider her girlfriend material, don't get drunk and kiss her...it's not going to lead anywhere. Ask her out on a proper date and if she says no or cancels again, move on.
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reader, ellie:)  +, writes (2 November 2009):
 i would just say ask her out being afraid never helps. and if she said she likes u she does!!!!!!
GOOD LUCK DUDE :)
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reader, D3athgrip  +, writes (2 November 2009):
I think its worth a shot man, seriously. I mean if she says no then sure youll be sad for a bit but its better to know so you can actually chose between giving up on her or pursuing her
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