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writes:So, Me and my girlfriend have been dating for two and a half years. I love her more than life itself and vice versa. I just moved a couple of states away, however, for college. Everything is still great between us, but we have mutually decided to take a break until I return in about 5 months. We will stay in loose contact with each other, but are both free to see other people as we please. She is worried that I will find someone else, though I am sure I will not. I don't really like the thought of her dating around either, but this is something that we both feel we have to do. My question is, is this an awful idea? I would hate for this to do more harm than good, though we both feel it will make our relationship stronger.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2009): It sounds like a healthy situation you're in, having both agreed that this is the right decision to take a break.Chances are you will come back to eachother more in love than ever.But communication is the key, if you're hoping to get back together at the end of this you need to talk about how you're feeling and if either one of you starts to feel too jealous or upset by it you might have to make the decision whether to be properly together again or not.
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reader, lilshorty +, writes (2 November 2009):
Dating around can be healthy for two people if you both agree that it's a good idea. If you can manage the jealousy that inevitably comes along with it, then you are fine, but you really need to sit down and think about whether or not you can both handle what is going to happening. You are taking a risk by doing this, you might find someone better, she might find someone better or you both might find out that you still want to be together.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2009): If you're both relatively content with the idea, then casually dating around probably isn't all that bad of an idea. A lot of people wouldn't feel secure enough to do it, but then most 'breaks' are quasi-breakups - and this is clearly not the case here.
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