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writes:Hello!I am currently a twenty year old college student. Up until recently, I had no idea what I wanted to do with my life and I usually focused on other things, like relationships and family.It's only now that I've focused on schooling/work.Anyways.So I've been seeing this guy for a few months. He's was a friend prior to dating, but so far it's been amazing. He's happy and I'm happy, but there's one.. thing.I wouldn't call it a problem, but he makes a GREAT deal more money than I do. He's successful, accomplished, handsome and just so sweet to me! Often times when we go out with his family and friends, I'm a little embarrassed about my educational background (they all are in grad programs/already have their degrees while I'm still going after my associates..)They're around 24-26. So they have a few years on me. I try not to feel that bad about it, but then my boyfriend would insist on paying for everything because he knows I have a part time job only. _He's really sweet and I really want to do something, but feel that just buying some things here and there aren't enough.. He'll spend hundreds on me and I would buy something 100~ (like tickets to a show..) for the both of us. And it's like.. every grand he spends on me (we'll go on trips to other states/etc/musicals/etc, he'll surprise me) I'll pay like 200-300.I dont know ): i still feel bad. but i'm really happy that he doesn't mind i'm working hard for my associates. In fact, he supports and respects that I am.Any advice on this?
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reader, Aunty Babbit  +, writes (6 October 2013):
 One day, when you're qualified, experienced or in a better position at work you will be commanding a better salary and things may balance out.
Of course he may have been promoted by this time and therefore may still be earning more than you.
Providing he isn't bothered by your reduced income or expecting you to match his expenditure then I don't see the problem.
Don't get yourself into debt trying to keep up with him financially and don't be ashamed of earning less or not being as accomplished educationally yet.
He knows who you are, what you do and what you earn and wants to be with you and you're both happy.
Let it go, my love, and enjoy what you've got.
I hope this helps AB x
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reader, banditsmom1124 +, writes (6 October 2013):
 just treat him good...always. men like him are hard to come by!!!!!
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