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writes: My ex broke up with me 6 months ago. I found it so difficult to move on. I dont talk to my friends a lot about how i feel because i dont want them to hear me whine all the time. I dont want to tell my family about it either. Im always an independant daughter. Sometimes i feel that im going to break down since i constantly keep it in mind. Im thinking maybe traveling alone will help. Where do you guys think is a safe country for a girl to travel alone? I went to italy twice with my ex and it wont be difficult for me to stay there alone. My ex lives there. Of course i wont see my ex again or tell him if im going there. But im kinda worried if it will make me sadder or it will be dangerous for a girl to travel alone there. Or any suggestion?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2013): First of all Italy? You know deep down inside why you are going there...of all the places to go? I would suggest finding a travel buddy if you can, but many women can travel alone. Me? I highly suggest Costa Rica: the Pacific side for a safer feel,or the Caribbean side for a more rustic and absolutely gorgeous backdrop-sounds like money is not an issue-Hawaii is a pretty safe bet. Costa Rica is cheap-and they say it is life-changing!
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (6 October 2013):
 You don't mention where you live but I guess you are from the UK. I would like to experience the real sauna in Finland or try a Swedish massage. Hot springs are my favourite too. In Scandinavian countries people are well behaved and they leave you alone. You don't hear much drama in those countries.
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reader, Aunty Babbit  +, writes (6 October 2013):
 I'm not sure it's a good idea for anyone, male or female, to travel alone whilst feeling depressed.
You say it was hard for you to move on but, my darling, I don't think you have. You're still hurting but are bottling it up because you're concerned others will think you're whining and you've always been independent.
If you're struggling to cope and feel depressed then you must talk to someone, friends and family will be more obliging and supportive than you think.
If you're really against that, then maybe consider a counsellor, they're impartial and will not think you're whining.
Travelling is fun and can open up new possibilities and ways of thinking but I can't help feeling that you're running away from your problems and the people who could possibly help you through them.
I think you should talk to someone and work through your hurt and confusion and then when you're feeling stronger take a holiday and travel.
When you do travel avoid the country or the area where your ex lives, at least until you have moved on and it doesn't hurt anymore.
I wish you well and hope this may help AB x
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reader, Brokenv +, writes (6 October 2013):
You don't have to travel alone. When I was younger my girlfriends weren't interested or didn't have the money to travel, so I joined a group. I had lots of people to travel with. If I wanted to do something on my own I did. If I wanted to go with a group I did. It was a fun trip. Go and meet with a travel agent. I'm sure he/she will give you some great ideas and suggestions.
Sorry about your break up. But don't let this stop you from doing what is good for your heart and soul.
Good Luck and have FUN!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2013): Well, don't go to Italy if your ex lives there, that would be counterproductive!!
I LOVE traveling, and it depends on what you want to see. If you're outdoorsy, go hiking in Switzerland, if you're looking for great food, try Munich or Barcelona. If you want to go the US, try Seattle or Portland!! Vancouver (in Canada) is great too. Or Australia (Sydney, Melbourne) or New Zealand (if you're into hiking, etc.) And I imagine South America (Argentina, Venezuela, Brazil, Peru) could be a blast too, if you're safe about it!
Also...for traveling alone, I highly recommend couchsurfing...I've had so many great hosts and I never had a bad experience.
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