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writes: Hi there people I hope all those great agony aunts like d4uo4 can help!!Well, I am worried I'll lose everything that I have got. I'm 21 and I was abused as a child. And although years have passed I still find it really really hard to carry on with my life.Sometimes I'm up all night worrying that I will lose my boyfriend, family and job. I have already lost a string of friends because I refuse to go out at the weekend (I take massive panic attacks) and I'm constantly working to keep myself busy.. I feel as if my past life is coming back to haunt me and I'm back to my past problems again.I feel as if I don't know who I am anymore and I want to get my life back on track. My GP refereed me to a psychologist and I'm worried sick in case anyone thinks I'm a nut job.Any answers will be appreciated. Thank You. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2008): wow i can relate that recently happened to me, used to get bullied 4 years back then I became fine i was happy again and now its back in my head i feel like i did when i did get bullied.
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (26 March 2006):
 Glad we can help. Let us know how you get on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey there, I just wanted to thank the great agony
aunts who answered my Question,
You have all been great and I am sincerely
grateful for all your heart felt answers that you
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You really gave me the support I needed to move on again..
Thank You all who took the time and answered...
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reader, Aunt Audrey +, writes (19 March 2006):
 Firstly well done for seeking help, there's certainly no shame in that.
Secondly why does anyone need to know about your therapy, apart from close friends and your family?
I'm sure anyone who knows you well enough will understand, the most important thing is that you get the help you need for as long as it takes and become well again, a doctor is a doctor,whatever part of the body he/she treats. Don't continue to suffer for fear of what others think, other peoples views are not important, think of yourself and how much better your life will be if you are able to put your demons to rest.
The greatest of distances can be made with the smallest of steps, you've made your first step to recovery by admitting you need help, keep walking, you'll get there in the end!
Good luck.x
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2006): Make sure you see a good therapist; If the one your GP recommended doesn't work out, then find the right one for you. Especially if you have insurance to pay for professional services, you got no reason not to go. As for people who criticize those of us who get the help of a psychologist, their opinions are not worth bothering about. Sometimes people are mistaken in their honest belief that, "Nobody needs therapy."; however, others are simply evil and will do anything to prevent you or another person from getting professional help. Don't allow them to do this; follow the advice of your GP.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2006): Look there is no shame in asking for help when you need it. I was attacked months ago and i put myself in counselling. I have low self-esteem among other family related issues. If you this psychologist will help then go for it.
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reader, willywombat +, writes (18 March 2006):
OMG! You poor thing. What a dreadful experience you ahve had.
Look, there are some strangely narrow minded people out there who will judge you whatever you do. But if you need a referral to a trained professional who can help you through your problems then sweetheart please take it. AND tell those who would judge you to STUFF IT.
If you need a physiotherapist to help with physical pain, you would accept that help in the blink of an eye without thinking twice about it! So when you need help when your mind is *hurting* then you go to the person who is trained to help you *strengthen it*. All a psychologist is there to do is to help get to the root of your problems and to try to teach you ways of coping with the pain or mental discomfort that your problems have caused you. It is not like going to a psychiatrist (although there is nothing bad about seeing one, in the right circumstances) a psychologist is not a *medical* intervention. They do not prescribe pills and potions....rather they find out the problems and help you develop learning behaviours to cope with your pats.
Good luck, keep us posted as to what you decide.xx
PS. If it makes you feel better, I know many people who have used the services of trained professionals and they are not in the slightest *mad* or *weak.
So go for it, you really have nothing to lose.
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (18 March 2006):
 Do go and see the doctor you've been referred to. Having a few unenlightened idiots think less of you doesn't really warrant a lot of concern. Why would you care what an idiot thinks? And someone who would label you a "nut job" for being treated by a professional for a very real, very frightening disorder is an idiot.
The way to get your life "back on track" is to understand that the abuse you suffered and the fear that it generated is still reverberating in your life today. Speaking to someone who is specially trained to help people who have been in your position is the best, fastest way to move on with your life, so you can be happy again.
Please don't be discouraged by what "other people might think", because that doesn't matter. What does, is that you're standing right at the first step to overcoming the problem. You just have to be brave enough to take the opportunity.
The troubles that you're having in your life, and with your panics and with your friends, all probably have the same common root. Discussing the matter with a professional can help you locate the source of your fear, solving some of your other issues at a stroke.
Just go in for a talk with him/her and see how you feel. Remind yourself that if you had a vision problem, you'd see an optician. If you had a rash, you'd go to a dermatologist. What's the difference between that, and seeing someone to help you with a problem in your mind?
Good luck.
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