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writes: My boyfriend of four months recently cheated on mewith his ex-girlfriend when I went away. He rang her after he spoke to me and took her back to his house. He says it's the biggest mistake of his life and is completely distraught. He says he has been the happiest ever since being with me but now I just don't know what to do? Do people make mistakes?
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (29 March 2006):
 4 months into your relationship in the so called HONEYMOON PERIOD, your guy pursues and sleeps with somebody else. read your question again. Pretend one of your friends has this problem. Tell me what you would say to them?
I bet you anyhting it would be *dump him, he is playing you for a fool, he cannot be trusted!*
DUMP HIM. He has done it once, twice! He will do it again.
And of course he is distraught.
He got caught didn't he?
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reader, moocha +, writes (29 March 2006):
moocha is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe cheated again!!! With the same girl!!!He says he didnt mean it and he doesnt have any feelings for her - what should i do?I cant beleive he has done this to me again.Can it be a mistake second time round?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2005): Hi Moocha, Im in the same situation at the moment. My boyfriend of 6 months slept with his ex. Its really hard, especially when he wants to try again, I know. After all the advice I have gathered from my friends the only thing I can suggest is to go with your gut instincts. The thing that worried me the most was that to go back to ex is an indication that there was some 'unfinished' business there. Also, he didnt necessarily need to tell you. It was quite selfish of him to off-load his guilt like that. Dont settle for anything less than how you would treat someone else. I am struggling with leaving my ex well alone now - but I think I will look back and be thankful that I walked away from that one. I wish you the best of luck. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2005): Yes they do, but it depends if he learns from it. This is a hard one. If you relationship is fantastic and you love him, he loves you etc.... and you believe what he says then sit him down and try and work out why he did it. Then decide from there if you can forgive. BUT if he makes a mistake again, even kissing someone else then I would get out of there quick.
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reader, sexseahot  +, writes (8 November 2005):
 Moocha,
Let me get this straight... He CALLED her and TOOK her back to his house. It don't seem like it was a mistake to me. It's only been four months of a relationship and things like that are happening? I wouldn't let that happen, if it was a mistake or not. You can find someone else that won't do that to you.
If you love him though and WANT to be with him, he may not do that again, but there is also that chance because he did it the first time, which was unnecessary. Hopefully he wouldn't do this again, then try and say it was a mistake when he's the one that went for it. That just seems wrong to me.
People DO make mistakes, but if he's going to be doing this crap everytime you go away, do you want to have to worry about that? Some people do that once and regret it and some people just say that they do. It's choice what you want to believe and put up with. If you believe he won't do this again, stay with him and make sure that he don't try anything such as this again. It's uncalled for and it's just saying he's not satisfied with what he has already.
Good Luck!
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