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writes: Hi. I am quite scared as this has never happened to me before.I went out with a guy. It was more a rebound from my ex of 3 years. WE were together about 2/3 months and I realised I still liked my ex and also that this guy was very possesive and didn't like me going out with my friends, so not for me at all, far too needy!When I told him this I had to be quite blunt and to the point and just tell him to leave me alone as I didn't want to be with him, otherwise he would not have got the message!Then he started saying on text that nothing in his life was going well. He has a history of depression as he used to take a lot of drugs. He was diagnosed with psychosis. I only found this out when I had been with him about a month!He has now started blackmailing me and telling me if I don't see him he will kill himself! I don't want to see him as I want to be with my ex and this guy makes me uncomfortable as I am unsure what he is capable of. Should I ignore him completely, as it's obvious it's my attention he is seeking. I would feel awful though if he did do anything as I don't want to feel responsible but then again he is the one responsible for his own actions!Advice would be good - he is making my life difficult and I may go to the police if he continues!xx
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (28 March 2006):
 You must get help and get out of this relationship. His dependence and neediness have now made him emotionally blackmail you. You do not have any responsibilty towards this bloke so get out now. His behaviour is a means to control you. You dont need to be controlled. What you do need to do is GET HELP from a professional source like the police. Get some advice and get this person warned and/or locked up before he does you serious harm.
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reader, Floppy +, writes (28 March 2006):
 Hello,This guy is trying to blackmail you for your attention, if you ignore his text messages and try to take him off your mind, he should son get the message, however if he doesn't threaten him by telling him you will go to the police if he continues, eventually if he doesn't give him then go ahead with it. No guy should be able to control your feelings and emotions, try not to let him get to you, and work things out with your ex if that's who you still want.If i was in your position, i would warn this guy off with a threatening message and hope he got the picture, if he didn't however i would take it one step further and he wouldn't be able to control you anymore. My overall advice to you is, 'don't waste your time on someone you won't love, go after your ex who you obviously have some very deep feelings for!' And Good luck!!
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reader, Aunt Audrey +, writes (28 March 2006):
 You cannot continue in a relationship due to emotional blackmail, you will end up very unhappy and probably lose the person you really want to be with.
If he is sending texts that are bothering you, change your number. Tell him again you have no future together and that you want no more contact,and mean it, all the time you continue to see him, txt him or call him, his methods of emotionally blackmailing you are working. In these situations you have to be blunt and to the point.
You cannot be held resposible for what he may do to himself as a result of your decision not to continue with the relationship.
If he won't leave you alone and keeps threatning to kill himself, speak to the police they maybe able to help.
Good luck.x
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reader, LEXI8580 +, writes (28 March 2006):
I would definately go to the police still and report him because it doesnt look like he is going to leave you alone that easily so its best to stop it now. But dont listen to his threats if he was going to kill himself he wouldnt threaten it he would just do it, he obviously thinks he can get to you this way but dont let him, as you said he is responsible for his own actions, dont let him run your life! Goodluck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2006): hey i think that if it continutes u are right to go to the police and there are place you can send himfor help but don't tel him this. don't be scared as this will make it wors sit him down quietly and say to him everything and say your reallly sorrry and say you want to be friends and then maybe it will help goodluck x
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