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writes: I feel like I am being used, I work 6 days a week whilst my partner stays home. Sometimes she is still in bed when I get home from work. We do not sleep together anymore, she stays up all night watching television and smoking dope. I also do the shopping, some of the washing and cooking and ironing. Am I being taken advantage off? Reply to this Question
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reader, tux  +, writes (27 March 2006):
 Yes I do feel you are being taken advantage of. Easy answer for you is to move on.
Harder answer:
To me, it sounds like she has a *minor* drug problem. That can be tough for you. From the sound of it, she is in love with her drug more than you. A) you can follow the easy answer and just leave her. B) take the harder way and get her help for her problem.
I would recommend the hard way even if it means she wouldnt be with you because I wouldnt feel right leaving her alone like that. but then again to be helped, they also need to be willing to accept that help. If she doesn;t take that help see the easy way.
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reader, Hopeful +, writes (26 March 2006):
 I think you are but the other issue here, is that it just doesn't sound like a very healthy relationship by the fact that you don't sleep together anymore, she uses drugs, she doesn't seem to have any motivation or drive, you run on completely different schedules, you seem to be beginning to resent her laziness and she takes you for granted.
I think that she needs to grow up and start finding her own way in life. It will be very difficult for you to be happy with a girl like this and I think you deserve someone who respects you and pulls their weight in the household and in the relationship.
I would tell her to get a job or hit the road. One or the other and then I would enjoy the spoils of your own hard work, go on a nice holiday, buy yourself something nice rather than working to support her and her drug habit.
You deserve better, no one deserves to be used like she is using you.
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (26 March 2006):
 simple answer to your question.
YES.
Yes, she is taking advantage of you.
Question from me to you.
Are you going to do something about it?
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