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I feel a chemistry with a man who isn't my husband--is it all in my head?
Q. dear cupid, i'm in a bit of a dilemma, to say the least. i've been married for nearly 7 years though cant say it's been any kind of relationship apart from co parenting for at least 4 and i am terribly lonely and miss love in my life and my husband ...
A. 23 August 2007: The way I see it is you really have two choices here. First you have to figure out if you even love your husband anymore. Because if so, then your first choice is to accept that he has mistrust issues over what he's learned about you recently. It ... (read in full...)
I dont want to break up with my girl to date the other, but know it wont last in my current relationship!
Q. I Have an amazing girlfriend and i love her. But before I started dating her i met another girl. I cant get her out of my mind and she is truly everything in a girl i could ever want. I never asked her out because she had a Boyfriend. But they broke ...
A. 30 July 2007: Hmmm, well then the answer seems pretty obvious to me. Or is there something I'm missing?...If you're interested in this other girl, the one who used to have a b/f but doesn't now, I think you should ease out of your current relationship and see ... (read in full...)
He's married but seems to quite like me; could this go anywhere?
Q. Recently a married co-worker started e-mailing me at home. The emails are not sexual in any way--the most he has ever said is that he thinks I'm cute and that he likes my company and enjoys talking to me. He came to visit me twice at home, yet both ...
A. 27 July 2007: I think he's testing you to see if you'd be interested in a "fling". He's not talking about divorcing his wife that's for sure. If you're smart you will not take him up on his offer or his implications, no matter how tempting they are. If you ... (read in full...)
I want to be the one who teaches my 13 year old cousin about sex
Q. My cousin is 13 and when i was young, i kind of explored in her vagina. i didn't know what i was doing. is it ok to teach her things about sex and what to do in a situation where she wants to have sex? i want to be the one to teach her what to do ...
A. 27 July 2007: What on earth for? Having sex with a family member is just creepy and gross...... (read in full...)
Why won't my boobs grow?
Q. It is almost August 2007 and I have had my period since Febuary, i was lucky i just got it in grade 10. But it has been almost 7 months after i got my 1st period and my boobs are still the same size??? when will I grow!!!What can i do to help them ...
A. 27 July 2007: Our bodies continue to change as we age. When I was your age, I was a 32A....By the time I got married at 19 yrs.old, they were 34B. I really hadn't gained weight, but I had "filled out" as my mother would say. After I hit 35, I had gained 25 lbs. ... (read in full...)
Three kids and marriage and I feel the romance is dead! Help me!
Q. i am 26 yrs old i have been with my husband going on 8 yrs and married barely 1 yr. i don't know what is going on, i know i love him but i am not happy at all. I wish i could say i was but i can't we have 3 young children (3, 4 , 5 yrs old). we ...
A. 27 July 2007: Couples need to always schedule time to be ALONE, otherwise you drown in a sea of parenthood. Hire a babysitter, or ask someone reliable in the family to take the kids one night a week starting immediately, so the two of you can have time alone. ... (read in full...)
I'm 14, 8 months pregnant, the father of this baby has left me! So many problems..I need advice badly!
Q. Hey, so im 14 8 months pregnant and for the first time im doubting if i want this baby, my ex who i was with for a year and 6months well he left me, spread lies about me denied he was the dad then refuses to speak to me, hes making it so hard, ha...
A. 27 July 2007: Since you are so far along, you should contact your healthcare provider about the pains you're having. They may want to check you. It's possible that you're having premature labor pains, or false labor. At any rate, your physician should see you ... (read in full...)
Is 2.5 weeks enough time for the pill to take effect?
Q. i have been on the pill for 2 1/2 weeks now. today my boyfriend and i had sex without a condom. im using the YAZ pill. is there a significant chance i could get pregnant or am i considered safe within the 99% effectiveness rating? is 2 1/2 weeks ...
A. 27 July 2007: I'd give it a month.... (read in full...)
I saw a suspicious message on my wife's phone but she swears there's nothing in it; how can I trust her?
Q. hi i'm having trouble with my wife, she doesnt live in the states she lives with my son currently 2thousand miles away, i saw a message on her cell phone from a guy friend of hers saying love you horney. and since then i have trouble trusting her, ...
A. 27 July 2007: So it sounds like you confronted her about the phone message and I'm wondering what was her excuse for why a male friend would text her with a 'love you honey'? If you haven't confronted her, please do so. I'd love to hear her explanation, then ... (read in full...)
Do I ignore what the world thinks and do what my heart says?
Q. I recently ran into my ex. We hit it off, and we started hangin out again. I strongly believe that she is an amazing person, but my family and friends think otherwise because we had a rough going of separate ways. The world truly is against us ...
A. 27 July 2007: Well, what was it about your relationship that made it fail and what has changed that you think will make it work this time? Sometimes love does not conquer all. You have to be objective if she is truly wrong for you, regardless of how much you ... (read in full...)
The night we announced our engagement he went and saw a hooker!!!!!
Q. Hi, my partner and i have been together for 3 years we recently got engaged and today i found out that he went to a hooker the same night we told our friends and family the news.whats even worse is that the same day he got the hooker was the day we ...
A. 27 July 2007: So how did you find out? And are the sources who gave you this information reliable?....If so, then give him back the ring, tell him that you know what he did and you're not sure you want to commit to someone who will cheapen himself, and your ... (read in full...)
I dont want to break up with my girl to date the other, but know it wont last in my current relationship!
Q. I Have an amazing girlfriend and i love her. But before I started dating her i met another girl. I cant get her out of my mind and she is truly everything in a girl i could ever want. I never asked her out because she had a Boyfriend. But they broke ...
A. 27 July 2007: Why would you stay in a relationship that you already know isn't going to last? Just end it and go for the girl you want to be with. ... (read in full...)
Hes cheating with me, but wants to wait for his relationship to end naturally, How can I feel more at ease about this ??
Q. About three months ago, my boyfriend and I broke up, and a man that I had known and loved for five years (but never pursued it or said anything to anyone as he is attached and 18 years older) kissed me. Since then we have been seeing each othe...
A. 27 July 2007: Well you can do one of two things...You could annonymously mail her a picture of the two of you in a compromising kiss that you exchanged in a public place (anyone could've snapped the picture and you would have never known, right?). That might ... (read in full...)
She believed I was having an affair and we split.. I am devastated! Any advice?
Q. We were together and in love for 5 years and had decided to get married. We arranged everything including the airline tickets for her family to fly in from Brazil. However in the last year of our relationship she gradually became more suspicious of ...
A. 27 July 2007: Maybe you should have found another secretary. Then if her suspicions continued to move to someone else, or something else, you'd know that she was just looking for an excuse to call off the wedding because she really had fears about getting ... (read in full...)
In a relationship, what do guys like and not like?
Q. Please someone tell me, what do guys want out of a relationship? do they like to be kissed alot? do they sometimes just want to be left alone? how do they like their girl to act? and what do guys not like? ...
A. 27 July 2007: I'm not a guy, but I've had experience with enough of them, and I'd say it's all personal choice. There is no cookie-cutter, one-size fits all advise here. Some men like alot of affection and kissing, touching etc. Some do not. If you have a b/f ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend doesn't flirt in person but does online and it makes me uncomfortable
Q. me and my girlfriend have been going out for nearly 6months and i love her but she seems to flirt with other guys online but not in person... i do trust her but she does it excessively and she constantly jokes about cheating on me with them, this ...
A. 27 July 2007: Have you asked her why she feels the need to validate herself through other men, on line or otherwise? Are you not enough for her? You've told her it bothers you, now you need to ask her point blank to end it or you're out of here. I think one ... (read in full...)
Some questions about the contraceptive pill
Q. I was wondering if I am on the pill is it safe to have sex unprotected and I mean with the same person all the time? Would there be any chance of getting pregnant? How long after I am off the pill would it take to get pregnant? Just wondering with ...
A. 27 July 2007: The pill is 98% effective at protecting you against unplanned pregnancies. But it does NOT protect you from AIDS and other sexually transmitted diseases. So have your partner get tested for these diseases, before you start having sex, then perhaps ... (read in full...)
Our kids dont get along. Do we have a chance?
Q. I had been going out with my boyfriend for over 5 years, we had planned to marry, we are both divorced and have children for our previous marriages, we moved in together last year, i have my 14 year old son living with me, four weeks after us moving ...
A. 24 July 2007: So he's decided now that there's nothing missing from what you previously had together? Is that the message here? It could be that he couldn't handle the stress your kids are bringing into the relationship and he was looking for an escape. I would ... (read in full...)
I'm confused. Maybe I should be on my own and get rid of this guy as I dont want to take on his kids
Q. Hello everyone hope you are all well. I turned 30 last week and need some advice. I met a guy over the internet about 4mths ago. we went to primary school together and i really fancied him then, but he never looked at me. i've known him since i was ...
A. 24 July 2007: Yeah you should probably cut this guy loose. He sounds like he's developing stronger feelings for you, than you have for him. His kids are part of the package. If you don't see youself being with this guy, and helping him raise these kids, it's ... (read in full...)
My Russian girlfriend is going away on holiday with another guy
Q. Hi, I have a Russian girlfriend who is about to go away on holiday with a male long term friend! Do you think that I should be cool about this? ...
A. 24 July 2007: I think you should go with your gut. If you were feeling cool about it, you wouldn't be writing to us. I don't know how long you've been with this woman, or how serious your relationship really is - or why she would plan a vacation with another ... (read in full...)
I've done very well but nothing seems good enough for my wife; she finds fault everywhere. I just want to be happy, what can I do?
Q. I have been together with the same woman since we were teens (30 years). Wonderful kids, it was a long struggle - but life turned out very well for us and I do help out around the house and look after the kids every change I get. However, we are r...
A. 24 July 2007: You should give her an ultimatum. Get counseling for her depression and overtly negative, perfectionist attitude, or you can no longer stay married to her. She needs help and until she recognizes and considers getting this help, she will continue ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for me to go through my husbands cell phone?
Q. is it wrong for me to pick my husbands mobile phone call and to go thru his phone?...
A. 24 July 2007: Wrong?....Not if you have a reason to believe there's something going on. But it is a slippery slope and you know what they say - curiosity killed the cat. The danger of snooping, is how you handle it if you find something you don't like. Say, an ... (read in full...)
I'm having trouble getting over my ex girlfriend, how can I move on?
Q. I'm having trouble getting over my ex girlfriend. We broke up over 15 months ago. I've dated a only few (less than 3) girls, but no-one compares to her. She recently met a guy and I know she's dating him, but I can stand it. How could I let her ...
A. 17 July 2007: I agree with DJ. Stop all contact with her. The less you know about her life the better you will be. After my b/f's ex-girlfriend broke off their engagement it took him about 4 years to get over her (and I'm still not sure he really is) because ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesnt show me any affection
Q. my boyfriend says he loves me but never shows any affection to me. Could there be anything that im doing wrong?...
A. 17 July 2007: I have the same problem with my b/f! He seems to enjoy being around me, and he says he loves me but I rarely get any kind of affection from him and I'm the type of person that needs it. I suppose people would say it comes from insecurity. I think ... (read in full...)
I have been having an online affair and I need to end it!
Q. I am deeply involved in an online affair with a much younger man - Im 35 - he is 21. He thinks I am his age and unattached. He says he wants to marry me. I am married with 4 children and I want to end the online affair. It has been going on for 2 ...
A. 17 July 2007: Tell your on-line guy, you're joining the Peace Corps, leaving the country for a few years and won't be able to continue communicating via on-line. Tell him you care about him, but expect him to move on with his life.....(What's one more lie, ... (read in full...)
Do I stay put or emigrate to be with my bf? What is the best thing to do?
Q. I am 35, separated (after 13 years of marriage) and have no children. I have wanted to change career for years and have just taken the plunge now to start on a degree course as I regretted not doing a degree in my late teens / early twenties - many ...
A. 6 July 2007: Life is all about taking risks, and in taking a few risks, and following your heart you may make a few mistakes. Oh well. Think about the journey. If you are in love with this guy, I'd move with him in a heart beat. What an awesome experience ... (read in full...)
He's been great towards me after cheating in the past but how can I ever learn to trust him again?
Q. Let's say you have been with someone for many years. You can tell he loves you because of his actions. He treats you the way a man in love treats his lady, but in the past he did cheat on you and now he is trying fix his ways to win you back. But ...
A. 6 July 2007: So why doesn't he invite you along when he goes out with his female friends if there's nothing going on with any of them?....And furthermore, why does he not have as many (or more) male friends? I would say, it'll take a really long time before ... (read in full...)
According to my friends I should just go round, get all my stuff out, and post keys through letter box.
Q. My boyfriend and I have been having problems recently - he's been backing off because of trust issues, problems with his daughter etc - but we were supposed to be going on holiday this week to sort things out. He backtracked a couple of weeks ag...
A. 6 July 2007: Go with your gut. If it's going to drive you nuts not to have closure, then a confrontation is in order. But you may not get the satisfaction of knowing why he's acting this way because he may not fess up. Then the whole confrontation thing is a ... (read in full...)
Recently she has started taking things further, she asked me last night if I would do her with a fish!!!
Q. Me and my girlfriend have a very close relationship and when we first went out we both had a very high sex drive. I would play with all her sex toys with her. We started experimenting with fruit and other shaft looking objects. it kinda turned me ...
A. 6 July 2007: No clue. Never heard of anyone wanting a fish. What's next, a dog?.....I would say, go with your gut. If it's starting to feel bizarre, it probably is. Some people take their fetishes to the extreme. Only you can decide when enough is enough. ... (read in full...)
I feel like my boyfriend doesn't appreciate me.
Q. This probably sounds quite pathetic but I feel like my boyfriend doesn't appreciate me. It seems like I'm the only one making an effort to see him or make him happy. I put myself out there with him 100%, I don't see the point in holding anything ...
A. 5 July 2007: You have nothing to lose by simply telling him that there are things you need in this relationship and sex should be pretty close to the top of the list - it's what keeps the bond between a couple intimate. Otherwise, you're nothing more than ... (read in full...)
My husband and his brother's wife had an affair. I feel his brother needs to know, but I don't want him to hurt as I do. Children are involved - what should I do??
Q. I found out my husband had an affair with his brother's wife. I am now going through a divorce. Learning about the affair has almost destroyed me. His brother knows nothing about the affair. I know my soon-to-be ex-husband and his broth...
A. 27 June 2007: You are in a place right now where you're probaby longing for others to feel your pain and share your pain. But since there are children involved, and you know how devastating this news has been for you, I'd say keep mum for now. It may come out ... (read in full...)
When will I ever get rid of all that hurt?
Q. I'm in my early twenties and was brought up in a very conservative culture. Sometime ago, I fell in love with someone I met via the internet. Only after we started talking, we realized we were distantly related. A day after two after all those ...
A. 27 June 2007: The loss of our "first love" is always the most painful one because you come into the relationship with a pure heart, ready to give love, and ready to be loved and that purest form of trust can never be duplicated again. Yes you will eventually ... (read in full...)
He makes me feel insecure about myself and picks out things I hate myself for.
Q. he makes me feel insecure about myself, he sometimes picks out the things i hate about myself. he knows about this and his way of talking is to involve his d*ck and think it makes it all better. i told him it wont fix the problems or what im ...
A. 27 June 2007: Whatever you do, do NOT give in to the idea of having a three-some. If you are already feeling insecure with this man, it will bury you. I think he's playing around and this is a way for him to do it so it seems like he's got your consent. Big ... (read in full...)
Will I ever be any more than my neighbour's friend?
Q. Next door neighbor - women and I have had a friendship/sexual relationship on and off for the past seven years. About 16 months ago she came to me and told me she loved me and wanted a relationship. At the time she was depressed and not happy with ...
A. 27 June 2007: If she's already got a boyfriend and seems happy with him, pursuing a romantic relationship with you seems unlikely. She's probably flattered but a little confused because you pushed her away initially and now that she's found love and turned her ... (read in full...)
He seems to have time for everyone except me and his daughter.
Q. I am freaking inside... I have been talking to a man for almost 3 years. All this while, he has still been talking with his ex-fiance. He tells me he is torn between us both. He doesn't want a relationship. He doesn't want to hurt anyone. I just...
A. 27 June 2007: Apparently you've been doing more than just talking. There's no sense lecturing you about practicing safe sex until you are in a committed relationship with someone who's exclusive to just you and not someone who is ping-ponging back and forth ... (read in full...)
I am female and have hair growing out of my chest on both sides, is this normal???
Q. dear cupid I am 16 under going into puberty. I seem to have a little concern, my chest seems to grow but on my right side of the chest has hair and the other side doesn't. Is this normal and what worries me more is will my left side grows hair ...
A. 27 June 2007: Go see your physician. It could be that your hormones are whacked out and medication will help. Some women produce more than a normal amount of male hormones (we produce both, believe it or not but in proper amounts). A visit to a good ... (read in full...)
My 3 female fellow students want the 4 of us to go on holiday together but I don't think my girlfriend is too keen on the idea seeing as she wouldn't be going.
Q. Hi! I ask to get some opinions. I study maths and have three female fellow students I used to learn with for the past two years. My girlfriend of just over two years studies history at the same university. She knows this friend. And all of those ...
A. 27 June 2007: I can't stress this enough....Don't go. If your g/f cannot accompany you on this trip, don't do it. If you get the feeling she's not happy about it, trust me, she's not at all happy about it and you may be confident that you can travel with these ... (read in full...)
I can't imagine not wanting sex so I would imagine if I could just get her to want it more, we could both be happier!
Q. Hi, I'm married over 10 years now and love my wife very much. Lately, however, I have been feeling like I'm getting a bit old and wanting more sex to compensate. I fear having a dull, brother/sister type marriage. I'm extremely sexual and could have ...
A. 27 June 2007: Okay, I'm assuming that when she does give in, she has a good time; meaning she does have an orgasm? When I was married, I swear my husband didn't have a clue about how to rock my world in the bedroom. His idea of great sex was "making love" which ... (read in full...)
I don't know if she likes me or is using me but I need to find a way to get a definite yes or no or a yes with a timescale like when she will be ready!
Q. So I've liked this girl since August. We've met for lunch once and it was awkward. I let her know how I felt towards her before this. But then lately I have had to visit her work a lot and she has just smiled and talked very quietly to me. Then ...
A. 27 June 2007: Just ask her. Call her up, and tell her that you really like her, and you'd like to get to know her better. Ask her if she's seeing anyone right now, or if she's got her eye on anyone in particular. Women appreciate a guy who's up front and ... (read in full...)
I feel a chemistry with a man who isn't my husband--is it all in my head?
Q. dear cupid, i'm in a bit of a dilemma, to say the least. i've been married for nearly 7 years though cant say it's been any kind of relationship apart from co parenting for at least 4 and i am terribly lonely and miss love in my life and my husband ...
A. 26 June 2007: I know what you are going through, been there myself. Part of me wants to just tell you to ask the guy out for coffee and at least make a new friend. But I know it won't stop there and from my own experience, I can tell you, it will feel wonderful ... (read in full...)
We want to be together for the rest of our lives but we keep arguing due to jealousy.
Q. Hey, I have a problem with my gf, well ex gf. we have been broken up for a few months and recently started talking and trying to sort things out to try and get back together, we both love eachother very much but we dont know if the other can change ...
A. 26 June 2007: You are not crazy, you are in love. I worry though, she is all wrong for you -- but this is something you will have to go through the hard way. Rarely when we love someone so much can we pull away even though the signs are all there. We just want ... (read in full...)
Both women are lovely and are in love with me...so what should I do??
Q. Hi, I have been single for a couple of years and meeting women on dating sites. Ultimately have been looking for a serious relationship. 6 weeks ago met a wonderful woman and we really hit it off and feel we are in love. We are going as slowly a...
A. 26 June 2007: Well there you go, sounds like you have been able to come to a decision and I'm glad if I helped in any way. If I were you, given these torn circumstances, I wouldn't rush into matrimony with either of them. Start seeing #1 exclusively and let the ... (read in full...)
I feel a chemistry with a man who isn't my husband--is it all in my head?
Q. dear cupid, i'm in a bit of a dilemma, to say the least. i've been married for nearly 7 years though cant say it's been any kind of relationship apart from co parenting for at least 4 and i am terribly lonely and miss love in my life and my husband ...
A. 25 June 2007: You my dear, have fallen prey to the attention of another man because your husband is no longer making you feel loved. You are emotionally starving to connect with someone because your husband is not treating you with the kind of loving and warmth ... (read in full...)
We want to be together for the rest of our lives but we keep arguing due to jealousy.
Q. Hey, I have a problem with my gf, well ex gf. we have been broken up for a few months and recently started talking and trying to sort things out to try and get back together, we both love eachother very much but we dont know if the other can change ...
A. 25 June 2007: I never think it's acceptable for someone to yell and scream at the person they (claim to) love, and call them every name in the book. She sounds a little explosive. I would question how deep her love really is for you. She may not like your ... (read in full...)
We want to be together for the rest of our lives but we keep arguing due to jealousy.
Q. Hey, I have a problem with my gf, well ex gf. we have been broken up for a few months and recently started talking and trying to sort things out to try and get back together, we both love eachother very much but we dont know if the other can change ...
A. 25 June 2007: Generally trust issues come from past experiences where one or both of you were let down by someone close to you, so you have difficulty trusting others after that. Jealously usually stems from the above. But sometimes people who are not normally ... (read in full...)
Both women are lovely and are in love with me...so what should I do??
Q. Hi, I have been single for a couple of years and meeting women on dating sites. Ultimately have been looking for a serious relationship. 6 weeks ago met a wonderful woman and we really hit it off and feel we are in love. We are going as slowly a...
A. 19 June 2007: Since you aren't feeling comfortable with juggling two women, you need to make a decision fairly soon. I wouldn't recommend this triangle anyhow because eventually they'll sniff each other out and the whole thing will blow up in your face and you'll ... (read in full...)
Both women are lovely and are in love with me...so what should I do??
Q. Hi, I have been single for a couple of years and meeting women on dating sites. Ultimately have been looking for a serious relationship. 6 weeks ago met a wonderful woman and we really hit it off and feel we are in love. We are going as slowly a...
A. 19 June 2007: Perhaps if you weigh their personality characteristics carefully you will find the answer. Girlfriend #1 seemed a little unstable in the beginning. What was she freaking out about? She was listed through a personal dating site. Which means uh, ... (read in full...)
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