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30-35,
anonymous
writes:he makes me feel insecure about myself, he sometimes picks out the things i hate about myself. he knows about this and his way of talking is to involve his d*ck and think it makes it all better. i told him it wont fix the problems or what im feeling. seems to me he's getting pretty distant and trying to satisfy his needs but running away from them and what i feel. he says im up his a** when he's never home. i dont trust him cause he's cheated before and he says hes not cheating on me now when i asked him straight up. most times i think i want to kill him when he's out and about, i think i know what he's doing and im pretty sure but i can't stand the fact he blames me for every little think. and he wants a 3 some and i think im not good enough for him... please advice. i never thought id be asking for any cause i thought i had my mind under control.
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reader, Sweet-thing  +, writes (27 June 2007):
 Whatever you do, do NOT give in to the idea of having a three-some. If you are already feeling insecure with this man, it will bury you. I think he's playing around and this is a way for him to do it so it seems like he's got your consent. Big mistake. My thought is this, if you have a gut feeling about something, it's usually right. Too many times people don't listen to their gut feelings. I wish I could send you the gift of valuing yourself so you could pick yourself up by the boot straps and get the hell out of this relationship before further damage is done to you. But I know that is no easy task. So talk to him. Maybe he will eventually value and love you enough to stop making crude remarks that hurt you. If he doesn't, I hope you can find your way to the door. Good luck.
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reader, flower girl +, writes (26 June 2007):
 What a bully this is emotional abuse and no one deserves to be treated like this, he has no right to use your insecurities in yourself as a tool for anything.
Get rid of him now and you will probably start to feel much better as he is just making things worse.
Take care.xx.
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (26 June 2007):
 Im assuming you are talking about a boyfriend....
Drop him like now. If he puts you down and picks on the things you hate about yourself than love he isn't worth your time! he shouldn't be picking out your bad bits, but complimenting and making you feel loved not insecure!
If you don't trust him then I really do not think you have a future with him cause it sounds like this guy if he doesn't get his own way will go out and sleep with someone else. Maybe I'm wrong there.
Drop him and learn to love yourself. You won't be able to do that with this guy dragging you down. You are so worth more than he is giving you!
xxxxxx
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