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*r Nosy
writes:Hi, I have a Russian girlfriend who is about to go away on holiday with a male long term friend! Do you think that I should be cool about this?
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reader, Butterflyfly +, writes (25 July 2007):
 why would she go on holiday with another man and why would she tell you about it. to keep you on your toes? it sounds pretty superficial to me. how long have you been together? it sounds like she is playing as much as she can and probably she doesnt expect you to disagree with her holiday, or if you do, she wouldn't care too much...
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reader, Stanley Cup  +, writes (25 July 2007):
Is her male friend homosexual? The answer to that question should be the answer to your question. Going on vacation is something that I would be somewhat suspicious about. On vacation, they might do some drinking, which lowers inhibitions. Also, there aren't any people there who would tell you if anything happened while those inhibitions were lowered. See if it would be cool if you went with them. If it isn't all right for you to go, then let her know that she's taking a permanent vacation from you.
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reader, kenny + ♥, writes (24 July 2007):
 I would not be happy with a partner of mine going away with someone of the opposite sex, i would have serious issues with it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2007): It is very odd that they would go away together. You didn't say what the reason is for the trip? Business or pleasure? I won't be cool with it, personally.
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reader, DJ8433 +, writes (24 July 2007):
 It's up to you. How do you think you will feel? Will you be for the rest of your relationship wondering if anything happened? Will you hate yourself later for not saying "no way"? It doesn't sound like you think you should be o.k. with it. As a man, I would not be either. I would say goodbye. It sounds like she's saying "it's all about her". I would say, it's not about her man, it's about you man. "Be a man", she expects it.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (24 July 2007):
 I'm with Eddie, as only every so often.
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reader, all horny +, writes (24 July 2007):
hell yes you should be conserned
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reader, PoSiOnKiSS +, writes (24 July 2007):
 absolutly not, i wouldnt let my boyfriend go on holiday with a female friend! why dont you go with her?
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reader, Sweet-thing +, writes (24 July 2007):
 I think you should go with your gut. If you were feeling cool about it, you wouldn't be writing to us. I don't know how long you've been with this woman, or how serious your relationship really is - or why she would plan a vacation with another guy, when she could be taking you. Have you met this guy?....Is he really just a friend, or could there be more going on between them?....Perhaps you should discuss your feelings with her and see if you could perhaps accompany them on vacation. (Were you even asked?)...Don't compromise your feelings. Good luck!
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reader, eddie  +, writes (24 July 2007):
 No, I wouldn't be OK with it. How did yo meet your girlfriend? Was it over the internet?
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