After reading the messages I don't trust him at all!!! What should I do?
Q. ok so i had one of my friends message my boyfriend on myspace to mess with him to see if he would cheat or anything cause i really wanted to know. so she sent him a message and said hey you seem pretty cool and i wanna get to know you better. my ...
A. 9 January 2011: Logging into his myspace account is not very honest. You accuse him of lying, but you lied to him. You can't expect someone to treat you differently when you treat them a certain way. You need to grow up... (read in full...)
Went on a date yesterday but can't get my ex out of my head!
Q. i went on a date yesterday with a lad i like, he was being really sweet and comforting with me, like putting his arm around me, hugging me, stuff like that but i still feel something for my ex and its annoyng as i want to forget about him, i just ...
A. 9 January 2011: My advice to you is enjoy this guy, and forget about your ex. I know it's hard, and I would love to say, keep hoping and wishing your ex will come back because that's how it works but it doesn't
And if you move on, your ex might come back to ... (read in full...)
Friends with benefits... I thought I meant more to him!
Q. So it's probably best that I start from the beginning. In college in Oct 2010 I started talking to this guy and over the next month we became really close. We used to text each other 24/7 and went out in the night. It gradually developed into a ...
A. 9 January 2011: He wants to be in a relationship with you, but you are not letting him in. I suppose if you 'sound enthusiastic' about being his gf, he'll want to be your bf. Good luck ... (read in full...)
I don't want to be friends with her if I can't be her boyfriend!
Q. In short, I know a girl who I became friends with over the past year. But to be honest, being friends with her is not like being friends with one of my guy friends. We talk, or rather she does most of the talking. I find myself in a role of helping ...
A. 9 January 2011: I would suggest you ask her out. If she is being your friend, she obviously likes you and has some feelings for you. So, you should ask her out and see what she says. If she doesn't want you, then you don't have to be her friend. Good luck ... (read in full...)
Why am I not comfortable (and I mean AT ALL) with being vulnerable to someone?
Q. Okay, I don't think I'm weird for this, but I just wonder why I act in the way where, I shut everybody out? When it comes to friends- I joke with everyone, and I have a lot of them, and I have a few I can even say are my best friends. And I t...
A. 3 January 2011: First of all, you are *only* 13-15. You haven't even begun your life yet, no offense. You are about to be going through a lot of changes, and it is normal to feel that way. Think about it, you have been in this world for only 13 years. There are ... (read in full...)
He treated me like a queen, but I wasn't ready. He said no contact, but I want him back
Q. So, here is the situation. A couple years ago, I went out with a guy who pretty much used me for my money. That relationship lasted nine months. It took me awhile to get over it, but when I finally did, I met someone else, and he was amazing to ...
A. 30 December 2010: He came up to me and wanted to be with me. I had no way of knowing that at the end of the road I would not be able to go through with it. It's not like I could predict that I would all of a sudden break up with him... So, thanks for your input... ... (read in full...)
We love each other,so why aren't we together?
Q. Hi cupids , I don't even know where to start , it's so complicated ... I met a guy about a year ago , I fell for him pretty quickly and we were hooking up quite alot in the beginning , he was a bit of a player in the beginning and i slowly backed ...
A. 30 December 2010: Umm... why didn't you? If he is complimenting you and you are not acknowledging the compliments, or acting on your attraction, he'll think that you are not ready to act on any love that you have for him. That a relationship does not make. Next ... (read in full...)
I have to choose between the love of my life, or my wife who wont try and work on our marriage and our new baby......
Q. Help. Please help. I am truly desperate and at the end of my sanity. I have been married for 3 years, together with her for a total of 5. I do love my wife as a person. I want to be "in love" with her, but she makes it difficult to do ...
A. 30 December 2010: So, you expect your wife to make you feel better - emotionally, mentally, and physically, and you say there are barriers. How is she supposed to make you feel better when you are actually creating barriers yourself? You are in love with someone ... (read in full...)
He treated me like a queen, but I wasn't ready. He said no contact, but I want him back
Q. So, here is the situation. A couple years ago, I went out with a guy who pretty much used me for my money. That relationship lasted nine months. It took me awhile to get over it, but when I finally did, I met someone else, and he was amazing to ...
A. 29 December 2010: I have decided not to contact him and move on. If he tries to contact me (I don't know if he will), or if we somehow "meet again" (not very likely but possible), then I will talk to him. But, right now, I need to move on with my life. ... (read in full...)
I want to keep the baby of 2 month relationship
Q. Im 8 weeks pregnant and boyfriend wants abortion and has already dumped me! he says he has a 6 month baby and is not prepared to have another baby and we were together for only 2 months! i want to keep the baby but im afraid of being a single mom. ...
A. 29 December 2010: There are plenty of single moms out there. The child is not going or care that it was a 2 month relationship. They are going to be more concerned with getting fed, dressed, being taken care of, and shown attention. If you feel that you can ... (read in full...)
How to deal with the game he seems to be playing?
Q. I don't know how to deal with this guy that seems to be playing games. Basically, when I show interest in him, he backs off even though he was the one who pursued me. He would always be the first to call, to ask me out, etc. But like I said, when I ...
A. 29 December 2010: Stop contact with him altogether and he will stop playing those games. ... (read in full...)
I want to tell him that I feel he takes me for granted
Q. Hello, I just need some advise for a situation with a friend. im going to be very brief sorry. Tomorrow I'm seeing a friend, who I have not spoken to or seen in quite a while. Both studying away from home, I tried to keep us together but he ...
A. 29 December 2010: "I want him to understand, he can't just do the things he does and expect me to stand by and watch." Tell him that, see what he says. If he gets mad, then you know that he is using you. I wouldn't be surprised if he was seeing someone else (I ... (read in full...)
Why am I not into the whole commitment before sex thing like most girls?
Q. I am fourteen years old, and many people have told me that I was one of the most mature 14 year olds they've ever met. But this is my problem: A lot of the ways and things I think, are more like a typical boy's attitude towards things. Like, fo...
A. 29 December 2010: Girls in society are not supposed to have any feelings of sexual desire, or at least if they do, not show it. This is totally wrong, and a problem with society. It's not that you are more sexual than other girls, it's that you have the guts to say ... (read in full...)
We love each other,so why aren't we together?
Q. Hi cupids , I don't even know where to start , it's so complicated ... I met a guy about a year ago , I fell for him pretty quickly and we were hooking up quite alot in the beginning , he was a bit of a player in the beginning and i slowly backed ...
A. 29 December 2010: I wouldn't throw in all my cards for this guy just yet. Yes, he loves you, but it could be a platonic love not a romantic one. If it is a romantic one, he should also be asking you out and wanting to be in a relationship with you. But, he's not. ... (read in full...)
I don't know where I go wrong!
Q. I've been in several relationships were the guy has been head over heels in love with me and I'm not joking :\ but I can't cope with relationships at all my most recent one was a guy I really liked and I daydreamed about him asking me out ALOT and ...
A. 29 December 2010: You have your whole life to have relationships. You're pretty young now (no offense :)), but when you're older, you'll probably see that things will be different. ... (read in full...)
I'm staying with my brother but my mum wants me to move in with her. I would like to but I don't know how to tell my brother.
Q. my life has always been full of drama. right now im going through hell. i lived with my mom my whole life. im 15 year so old right now. anyways so a year ago my mom just started going a little crazy. no she was heartbroken her husband of 18 years ...
A. 29 December 2010: Move back in with your mother. Your brother can't do anything to you. If he tries to hurt you, call the cops and they'll take care of it. It's not fair on you to be living in fear. Just take a deep breath and do what needs to be done. ... (read in full...)
Why is he blowing hot and cold? Is he insecure or he is not serious in the first place?
Q. I was talking to this guy for about a month when suddenly he went completely M.I.A for two weeks...then he contacted me apologizing, saying that things were moving too quickly and he didnt want to get hurt so he tried to just cut it all off between ...
A. 29 December 2010: It could be a couple different things. Maybe, when he was MIA for two weeks, he reconnected with another girl. That's why he is acting this way... if he really liked you, he would be stoked that he is dating a model! My advice would be to find ... (read in full...)
He keeps inviting his ex to family functions!
Q. Although I continue telling my boyfriend he is being disrespectful inviting his ex-wife to family functions, he continues to do it anyway. His daughter is an adult and I do not feel the need to include his ex-wife if he know it makes me ...
A. 28 December 2010: In my opinion, that's just a bunch of crap- just because she is a *nice* person doesn't mean that she should infringe on your guy's relationship. ... (read in full...)
My selfish girlfriend
Q. What do you if you are on a relationship with a selfish woman? She thinks everything revolves around her. I love her dearly but I have been holding back on getting engaged because of this issue? Is it possible that with time and cpmmunication she ...
A. 28 December 2010: Her having an abortion without telling you is pretty serious- the movie/ticket thing not as much... but it sounds like you don't want to leave her yet. Maybe, keep seeing her until something better comes along. ... (read in full...)
I want to keep the baby of 2 month relationship
Q. Im 8 weeks pregnant and boyfriend wants abortion and has already dumped me! he says he has a 6 month baby and is not prepared to have another baby and we were together for only 2 months! i want to keep the baby but im afraid of being a single mom. ...
A. 28 December 2010: It's up to you, since it's your baby. Personally, I would get an abortion- but I am just saying that because I have never been in your situation. What I suggest you do though is assume the father is not going to be there, since he already dumped ... (read in full...)
What is the difference between a friends with benefits and a lover?
Q. can somebody tell me the difference between a friends with benefits and a lover: He said that I am his lover.... what does this mean? Does he care about me for the future? or is this just a temporary sex relationship? What do you guys thi...
A. 28 December 2010: It means that he is in it for the sex. If you were his girlfriend, it would be for a relationship. Lover = friends with benefits... that's what I think. If you're not sure, ask him. ... (read in full...)
He keeps inviting his ex to family functions!
Q. Although I continue telling my boyfriend he is being disrespectful inviting his ex-wife to family functions, he continues to do it anyway. His daughter is an adult and I do not feel the need to include his ex-wife if he know it makes me ...
A. 28 December 2010: This is wrong, at least considering it is his EX wife he should leave her in the past. Yes, it's the mother of his kid, but he is not in a relationship with her anymore, he is in a relationship with you. Ask him about it, see what his reason is, ... (read in full...)
My selfish girlfriend
Q. What do you if you are on a relationship with a selfish woman? She thinks everything revolves around her. I love her dearly but I have been holding back on getting engaged because of this issue? Is it possible that with time and cpmmunication she ...
A. 28 December 2010: How is she selfish? ... (read in full...)
Are we even still dating? He said he doesn't want obligations.
Q. Sorry if this gets a bit lobg, but I am beyond confused and need some second opinions. So today marks nine months in my LDR. According to him, it's eight but that's besides the point. I guess I should just be happy he even remembered with the way ...
A. 27 December 2010: It could be that this guy is bored. He wants to take his girlfriend out, even though you don't care about it, it's probably still fun for him to be able to do that. And, the fact that he can't, because it's a LDR relationship makes it difficult ... (read in full...)
Son's girlfriend cheated, now his whole outlook on life has changed.
Q. I need help really badly. My son he has been down for the last year or so. He had a girlfriend who he loved a lot. He did things for this for this girl that were super romantic and she reciprocated. I liked her. 5 years later,, and I repeat my son ...
A. 27 December 2010: First of all, good job for being a caring father. Secondly, here's what you do. Let him figure this one out on his own. You can't make the pain go away- he has to figure it out that not all girls cheat and there are nice girls out there. You can ... (read in full...)
She's amazing, why is she with me?
Q. I'm in a long distance relationship with a girl, she lives about 2 states over, and we've been together for about two months now. We're both still in high school school, and both have social lives (Or at least she does), which brings me to my ...
A. 27 December 2010: It's possible she's lonely and she's using you for some companionship. I would suggest that you don't do anything just yet and see where it goes. ... (read in full...)
Do I want to lose my virginity to this girl?
Q. Here's the dilemma: I've been seeing a girl, roughly same age (23/24) for a few months now. I'm a virgin and recently found out she isn't. I'm afraid this will make her lose interest in me and also it makes me wonder if I really want to lose my ...
A. 27 December 2010: Look out for yourself- you seem to be using sex as a way to show how insecure you really are. If you don't want to be a virgin at 50, let her be your first time (unless you have some religious convictions.) I'm just saying, you need to take care ... (read in full...)
Hooked on these great feelings of desire.
Q. I am a married woman having a emotional affair with a single man 8 years younger than me. I met him on a social network. I told him in the beginning I was not leaving my husband cause he loves me. However, I have grown to really like him and think ...
A. 27 December 2010: Sometimes, when you meet a guy online, you click on the internet but may not in person- he may not be exactly what you were looking for. For example, I called someone one time who I met online, and I *hated* the sound of his voice- everything else ... (read in full...)
He treated me like a queen, but I wasn't ready. He said no contact, but I want him back
Q. So, here is the situation. A couple years ago, I went out with a guy who pretty much used me for my money. That relationship lasted nine months. It took me awhile to get over it, but when I finally did, I met someone else, and he was amazing to ...
A. 27 December 2010: I agree with you; I did tell him how I feel... it's just that even after I told him how I feel, he still wanted us to just be friends from then on. At this point, it's not up to me anymore whether he wants to be with me or not. He would also make ... (read in full...)
How do I tell her about my trust issues?
Q. How do I tell my girlfriend how I feel without making it look like I don't trust her? My girlfriend of 4 months is hanging out a lot with a new guy friend at work. She tells me about him quite often and seems to talk with him nearly as much a...
A. 27 December 2010: First of all, you have been with your girlfriend for four months. That's not enough time to know if she is even cheater or not. No, it doesn't come across as untrustworthy or controlling if you ASK her why she keeps hanging out with this other ... (read in full...)
Did I hurt him?
Q. its really a long story but im gonna make it short so i have a crush on a guy 4 almost a year and we re both in college well i started to like him when i knew that he likes me but im just too shy to talk to him so... he tried so many times to ta...
A. 27 December 2010: You both sound shy. My advice would be to go up to him and talk to him. That can establish some kind of communication between the two of you so you can at least say hi, smile, and acknowledge him when you are both in class together. Maybe, ask ... (read in full...)
I've managed to find nobody.
Q. OK, I'm really, really struggling now, and I don't know who I can turn to. Basically I just want honest answers, which my friends and family in real life don't seem to wish to give. Anyway, I'm almost 29. I will be 30 in a little over a ye...
A. 26 December 2010: What I would suggest is to try, try again until you finally get it. Don't let the failure of this one time discourage you. People who are in relationships have been in multiple ones- the previous ones didn't work out, so they tried new ones. ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend saved my life and is now handicapped. Should I stay with him?
Q. I'm 20 and my boyfriend is 24. He is the best thing that's ever happened to me. It almost sounds unreal, but he saved my life about one month ago. He pushed me out of the way from getting hit by an oncoming car, but he was badly injured. Right now, ...
A. 26 December 2010: Love knows no bounds- love breaks down barriers, physical, emotional, and mental. I suggest you love him through this period that he is going through. Put your own life aside for now. Once he is better, than you can talk about your future. (Who ... (read in full...)
He treated me like a queen, but I wasn't ready. He said no contact, but I want him back
Q. So, here is the situation. A couple years ago, I went out with a guy who pretty much used me for my money. That relationship lasted nine months. It took me awhile to get over it, but when I finally did, I met someone else, and he was amazing to ...
A. 26 December 2010: Thank you all for your answers. The message I got from most of them was 1. break up with current guy and 2. break the no-contact rule and tell my ex how I feel. What I forgot to mention though is that he is seeing someone else now too. So, I ... (read in full...)
How can I ever be appreciated for who I am, by him? Instead his ex was always better
Q. Hi, I've been with my bf for over a year now, and he often talks about the good old times with his ex. Well the thing is, he used to be quite attractive when he was young. Girls would do a lot of things just to be with him. He mentioned a lot of t...
A. 26 December 2010: He doesn't seem to appreciate you and what you are doing for him. Maybe, you need to talk to him about it and let him know that you feel unappreciated. If he still compares you to his ex, let him that is wrong, and that you love him and you want ... (read in full...)
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