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writes:I am freaking inside... I have been talking to a man for almost 3 years. All this while, he has still been talking with his ex-fiance. He tells me he is torn between us both. He doesn't want a relationship. He doesn't want to hurt anyone. I just had his baby this month. While I was pregnant he spent so much time with me. Now that our little girl is here, he is spending more time with his ex-fiance than his own daughter. Since I have been out of the hospital, he hasn't done anything he said he would and he isn't very helpful. I am feeling very hurt and I just don't know what to do. He still lives with his parents and he has time for everyone except me and his daughter. Any advise would be great please.
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reader, flower girl  +, writes (27 June 2007):
 I think you need to accept that this man was a mistake, but hey you got something very beautiful out of it, get him to pay his dues for his daughter and move on with your life.
You will meet someone that truly loves you and who will love your daughter too.
Take care.xx.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2007): this guy is walking all over you an why you may ask,because your basicaly giving his cake to eat,get him out of your lives as you aint got nowt to loose,not even a relationship,be strong for you an your child,you can make it.
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reader, Sweet-thing +, writes (27 June 2007):
 Apparently you've been doing more than just talking. There's no sense lecturing you about practicing safe sex until you are in a committed relationship with someone who's exclusive to just you and not someone who is ping-ponging back and forth between you and the 'ex'. You may not be able to win his heart, but you should be able to have legal documents drawn up so he will have to help with the cost of supporting his daughter. A blood test will be required. It sounds like he's confused about his feelings for you and that's not likely to change simply because he is now a dad. In fact, it may make him panic even more and gravitate toward the ex. I wish there was an easy answer. There's not. Just give your daughter as much love as you can and eventually he may come around. Otherwise, there will be other men that you'll meet someday, who will love your daughter as if she was their own. You'll see....
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