If it were just him he would probably be perfect, but his family oppose us living together and his house mate dislikes me. With all these problems is it worth sticking around?

A female age 36-40, anonymous writes:

So I'm at a point where I don't know if I should be sticking around in my relationship, or if I should strike out on my own. I've been seeing this very sweet, very handsome guy for about two years now, and although I would definitely say that we are really compatible, it just seems to be one problem after another and I just don't know if we are going to be able to move past it. From the beginning our relationship has been a bit strained because his best friend/housemate HATES me. As in this guy cannot spend more than a minute or so in the same room with me without making some snide comment or rolling his eyes and sneering, and just basically acting like I am human scum. My boyfriend is at this guy's birthday party (at his parents' house) right now, and I am basically sitting around twiddling my thumbs because I was specifically uninvited. In the same vein, when my boyfriend and I were trying to move in together a few months ago, after looking around at places and being about to sign papers, his mother tells him that if he moves in with me his grandparents would disown him, which, since they are paying for approximately 1/3 of his law school, would be a big problem. We're pretty serious, at least in my opinion, we talk about the future, and have kind of touched on the subject of getting married in the future a few times, but nothing really definite. He keeps telling me that things will be better once he graduates, but thats two years from now, and I don't really know if I should stick around and put up with his asshole housemate for another two years only to face more issues with his family down the line IF we actually do more in together/get engaged/married, not to mention I don't know if I can really get over the insult of them forbidding their son to live with me. I have no doubts that he does really love me. I love him very much, and if it were just him that I were dealing with I would pretty much say that he's the perfect guy for me, but I just don't know if this is something that can be worked through. Is it time to give up?

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