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writes:Hi.. My problem is that when i start my realation with my gf i wasnt vey serious and she told me that she isnt a virgin... I minded that but i thought iys ok.. But now am getting so close to her and atracted but i feel bad that she is not a virgin... We r having so much sex and love and everything but i dont knw how to forget this thing that she had a ugly boyfriend and she loved him so much and he took her virginity and left her with nuthin ... She loves me i knw but .... What the fuck ???? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2012): You shouldn't think about it. You can't change that, you need to get over it. Of course, you may be disgusted about her ex that took her viginity but there's nothing you can do about it. It's like she could just choose to go back in time and make it with you for the fist time because you want to. It's impossible so just forget it. Besides, she lost it with a guy she has fallen for. According to me, it means that she is a respectful girl. Would you prefer have sex with a girl that every boys in town slept with ? Apart from that, I know some men enjoy being the only one and the first. It's like a huge privilege, but don't be hard with your girlfriend about it. Finally, I strongly advise you to talk about your worries with her so that you could feel better !
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reader, Candid Cally  +, writes (5 September 2012):
How can you feel bad that she isn't a virgin when you are "having so much sex?" Were you a virgin when you met her?
At this point, she wouldn't be a virgin anyway. It doesn't matter who she lost it to, it matters that she is with you.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (5 September 2012):
 I know just "where you are coming from."
When I first dated the girl I eventually married, I learned that she had been for a cup of coffee with a real ugly classmate of ours. I couldn't understand how she could sip coffee in the presence of this cretin... much less have a bagel, as well....
Anyhow, I continued seeing her.... and about two years later, we got married....
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2012): The fact is she's with you and what she's got with you now is more important to her than losing her virginity to her ex. If you actually ask her she may even tell you she regrets losing it to him because that relationship didn't last, and he turned out not to be right for her. But she can't do anything about it now except get on with her life, same as what you should be doing.
You can't hold her past against her, everyone's got one including you. Was you a virgin when you got with her?
If you keep holding this petty thing against her, she's going to come to the conclusion that you're not right for her either and leave you too.
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