A
female
age
,
anonymous
writes:My BF prefers oral and anal to intercourse. I prefer intercourse to oral and anal. Despite my repeated requests to have him "cum" inside me during intercourse using a condom it still has not happened. When he does make love to me (which does not happen very often) it is always without a condom and he will pull out and "cum" all over my face. I bought condoms once and after months of askiing and waiting he finally agreed to try them (but they were too small).... and no mention since of trying them again. We have been together for over three years now (he is 47, I am 49). He does perform oral on me, but when he goes for anal, I do not get a chance to reach orgasm. Although I love him very much I do not find our love life very satisfying. Please help, do you have any advice?
View related questions:
condom, orgasm Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (4 September 2012):
I'm curious as to your definition of "love" (as in, "... I love him very much...").... since he doesn't exhibit much of the behaviour that someone who is IN LOVE with someone else, shows.....
I think your B/F is a self-centered child... and you deserve a REAL MAN/B/F who can understand just what is "love."
Meanwhile, why not purge ("... I love him very much....") from your vocabulary.... 'cuz it's really not so....
Good luck...
A
female
reader, person12345 +, writes (4 September 2012):
 Your boyfriend has been watching way way way way too much porn. In real life sex does not end with the man dominating and degrading his partner, that happens in porn. In real life sex doesn't only consist of you pleasuring him, that happens in porn.
You need to tell him to wake up and get his head out of his computer. That you are not a sex toy, you are a human being with feelings who wants to get mutual pleasure out of sex. Demand he stop treating you like a sex toy and stop having sex until he stops acting like it is a service that you provide to him.
...............................
A
male
reader, rcn +, writes (4 September 2012):
 Talk to him. You need to find a medium that can satisfy the both of you. Some do prefer anal, because of it being tighter, but not having a compromise is what's causing the issue your facing. You need to talk to him and be honest about how you feel.
...............................
|
