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writes:My boyfriend and I have been together 1 year. He has recently started playing tennis with the first girl he ever slept with (they never dated, it was a one night thing).Its been making me quite uncomfortable, they've played a few times this week. I don't know if its cos he just likes playing with her or he wants to see her.Is it right that I'm jealous? Is there anything I can do?
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reader, Stayc63088  +, writes (31 August 2012):
 I don't think it is weird to make you feel jealous. I wouldn't like that either. He can find a tennis teacher/coach whatever they are called, there's no reason to need her around. I would tell him how you are feeling and that you don't want him doing it. If he does it anyway then it's up to you whether you deal with it or leave. That's all you can do. Just always be upfront and honest and communicate, tell him your feelings on this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2012): Its not abnormal for you to feel jealous, some people feel jealous just at the thought of their boyfriend talking to other women. But this is a woman who he had a one night stand with so yes, I think your jealousy is more justified than others.
However, infidelity is infidelity, and tennis is tennis...huge difference. I think if he thought of her as more than a tennis opponent and wanted to be close to her personally, he would have been a bit more discreet about it than to make you aware of it.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (30 August 2012):
 ah so is he teaching you to play tennis better?
perhaps you can all play together?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI think its because she was his first, so in a way she'll always be special. And she's very pretty lol.
I play a little tennis yeh, but she plays properly, as does he!
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (30 August 2012):
Jealousy is an emotion rooted in insecurity... what do you feel insecure about with this girl?
have you asked him what's up with it?
do you play tennis?
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (30 August 2012):
 You're OK until they get to "love- 69"!!!!!!!!
Good luck....
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