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anonymous
writes:recently my bf has moved to my city and our 3years of long distance has ended.we love each other and we were meeting frequently last week.today he went to mall without telling me.he didnt invite me though he knew that next week its not possible to meet due to some busy academic schedules. when i called and asked what are you doin in the mall,why he didnt inform me,he said it was a sudden plan with his friends.he even said he cant talk as he was eating vanila icecream(my favourite).i really felt bad.i love vanila icecream a lot and he knew i would love to eat with him.later on i texted him that thnx for hurting me,he texted back sorry.after that i wrote i dont feel like talking.he didnot reply back neither he enquired.is it normal behaviour?or m i over reacting?
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reader, Lucky786  +, writes (4 September 2012):
 He's probably sick of you demanding attention all the time and just wants to be left alone. Why don't you just let the dust settle between you? Don't text him or call him. Let him breathe...
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni know and it was very rude of him.so does that mean that he has lost interest?moreover we fought on this and now he is not talking.if he texts something,should i reply back?
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reader, Lucky786 +, writes (3 September 2012):
You told him to choose between paying cards and talking to you or just playing cards or just talking to you. He cut you off.Choice made.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionnow he has started behaving more badly.tonight i called and he was not talking properly,we didnt talk the full day due to busy schedules.he said he will play cards with his friends and will talk.i said him to choose one but he didnt.instead he cutted the phone :( then he says i am selfish,bad! m fed up of him.dont know what to do.
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (3 September 2012):
 I think you're blowing this way out of proportion.
So you may not be ale to see each other next week. One week. It may seem like a long time to you now, but it's only a few days. Then you'll see each other plenty afterward.
If you expect your boyfriend to bring you along everywhere he goes you will quickly turn spending time with you into a chore.
You've got to find somethin else to do with your time when the two of you are apart. It would make time apart pass more easily and it will make you more interesting.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhe said he didnt knew that we were supposed to meet else he would have done it.i agree he has a life of his own but we are not going to meet next week thats why i got frustated.
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reader, Xx-Scorpio-xX +, writes (3 September 2012):
 You are allowed to do your own thing in relationships sometimes. Me and my boyfriend spend plenty of time together, and still do our own thing with our own friends on occassion. The only thing i'd be annoyed/jealous/upset about in the situation was if he was spending one-on-one time with another girl and no one else.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (2 September 2012):
 IF this guy knew that you crave vanilla ice cream... AND if he went and had some ice cream without inviting you to come along.... I think it's pretty easy to recognize that HE IS A DOG!!!!.... and you'll be better off without him...
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reader, Candid Cally +, writes (2 September 2012):
It is entirely possible that the reason that your relationship worked for three years because you were long distance. Now that you are in closer proximity, you seem to be so frustrated with one another that both of you are immaturely acting out.
Him yelling at you for being 10 minutes late to your last meeting at the mall, is just as bad as you telling him he hurt you by going out for icecream with his friends. If you both continue to hurt one another's feelings instead of respecting one another and communicating, your relationship will fall apart.
Being with someone for three years does not mean that you will be with them forever. A relationship takes effort, understanding, communication, sacrifice, and forgiveness from BOTH people.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (2 September 2012):
 Wow, are you expecting your boyfriend to never do anything without you attached firmly to his side, so he went out with friends and ate ice cream, what did you expect from him, to say 'no, I can't eat ice cream or go to the mall unless my girlfriend is with me"?
You are over reacting, you need to settle down and lower your expectations of the relationship a tad or nobody will ever be any good for you!
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (2 September 2012):
 oh please... are you saying that he is not allowed to go out with his friends and do things without you?
you are WAY over reacting.
I live with my partner and he's allowed to eat ice cream without me.
he is expected to go out and be without me.
and so should any partner you have.... having their own life is part of what makes them interesting.
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reader, Lucky786 +, writes (2 September 2012):
It would have been nice if he had invited you but he didn't. Just because you're closer together doesn't mean you have to spend every minute with each other. Maybe he wanted to spend time on his own or with his mates?
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