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writes:Well I've asked a few question on this site I'm still a bit confused my question is should I pack my bags and leave? My bf is offering nothing to me I love him dearly but as you know he has no compassion no love nothing he has been really depressed about his mom's passing and he is pushing me away I'm 27 and he is 47 its as if I don't count he always as he is the only one left should I go?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (5 September 2012):
 if mom just recently died and his behavior is new...then wait...
if he's always compassionless, loveless and makes you unhappy more than he makes you happy then go.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2012): This: "then don't just go." should be this: "then don't, just go."
Comma makes all the difference in that sentence hehe.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2012): It kind of depends on how long it's been since his mom passed and if that's the only reason he's like this, if it was within the past couple of months then I can't help but feel you're a bit selfish. We all have our bad moments and he just lost his mother and all you care about is what he has to offer you? Doesn't sound good.
If he's always been like this and you're worried about feeling bad for leaving because his mother recently died, then don't just go.
So there's two ways this goes, if this is temporary and only due to his mother then you really should have a heart and stop thinking of what he can do for you and figure out a way you can help return to his normal self, even if the only thing you can do is be patient. The other option is that this is who he is, in which case don't let the mother thing stop you.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (5 September 2012):
 Yes. No love, no compassion, nothing to offer... what are you still there for ? it would be different if his coldness were only temporary due to bereavement for his mother, but I get the feeling that this is not the case and he was not/is not / will not be treating you right regardless of this loss.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (5 September 2012):
 All I saw in your submittal was this: "....My bf is offering nothing to me.."
Then I saw this: "....should I go?"
The "answer" quickly appeared. It is "Yes."
Good luck....
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