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writes:I've seen a lot of penis anxiety threads based around "reassure me, is insert size normal?" but I'm going to come at it from another (still similar) angle.I'm 23, relatively slim although my guts bigger than it's ever been (people still act sceptical and shocked if I say I need to start dieting, so I'm far from chubby or anything) and I guess I'm average looking. Not conventionally handsome, but there's a niche for me (your Harry Potter/Louis Theroux/Jarvis Cocker etc. group). Anyway, I've recently measured my penis and it's smaller than I'd thought it was from previously measuring it a couple of years ago (probably had a less accurate method then, can't remember). I'm somewhere between 4 and 5 inches, probably around 4.5 in length. I'm between 5 and 5.5 in girth. Now depending on the source I go to, that's the upper side of small or the lower side of average. Even if most guys are 5.5 to 6, I'm smaller than that. To ignore stats and look at it, it's not the small pinky finger onject of mockery, but it's far from your 7 inch image of admiration (I won't go into 8 and above and size queens and all that). My question is how much of a disadvantage is this, really. I'm not interested in a relationship at the moment, or at least not a serious one, and increasingly casual relationships with girls seems possible. Is a humble cock a real disadvantage in terms of being desirable? I see many guys even on real life sex websites (as in fetish communities and suchlike) and the cute girls on there are often with guys bigger than I am, especially in dom sub dynamics. Now, don't get me wrong, I know there's a lot more to attraction and a lot more to sex. But just how big of a deal breaker could it be? Any thoughts are appreciated.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (4 September 2012):
 For those of us who are exquisitely endowed... it's no big deal....
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (4 September 2012):
 I have never considered the guys penis size as a deal-breaker, unless it's so darn huge that it's painful.
I don't compare the guys penis I have had relationships with either. I'm not one for taking out the measuring tape or ruler and see if his pecker is up to snuff!
If YOU can satisfy your GF/Wife with your penis/fingers/tongue/imagination, the size REALLY doesn't matter.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2012): I prefer thicker penises than longer. I think the Average woman is only 6 " deep insides, so if that's the case how can you put in there something that longer than 6"?But thickness wise, vaginas stretches that way.my husband is only 5", but also thick, tell you the truth it's more than enough for me. I think if he was bigger than that would be a deal breaker for me, because I don't want to hurt.When I was very young I had a boyfriend with very large penis, and it hurt. I was bleeding almost every time we had sex. It's not pleasure. I couldn't sit properly the next day and it felt like there was something there between my legs when I walked. Very uncomfortable. I can't imagine that any women would desire that feeling.I wish more men knew that women don't orgasm from intercourse itself almost never. There is a very small percentage of women who do that. Out clitoris is like a small version of penis. If it gets stimulated, then we orgasm. Most men in my experience don't know that and don't spend much time in that area. So for us women size of your penis is not that essential as for us to reach orgasm we don't really need it ironically. Its not that we don't like theI intercourse, of course we do, but I think not as much as you guys. I can honestly tell that I like oral sex much more.So, to answer your question, no your size is not a deal breaker.
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reader, Hennessy1989 +, writes (4 September 2012):
 I think your putting way too much thought into this dude, I see so many questions about this on here, the only people really bothered about it seem to be the men, how many girls do you see writing in complaining about cock size? I haven't seen any to be honest, but I suppose like the girls said it depends on the woman, don't dwell on things you can't change and have a bit more confidence In yourself
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (4 September 2012):
I think it really just depends on the woman. I prefer a guy on the bigger side (not too big) as opposed to a guy on the smaller side. But I've know girls that like guys that are smaller. I'm assuming it's similar to how some men prefer women with larger breasts over smaller ones.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2012): Well, for me a small penis would be a deal breaker simply because I like to feel "filled up" or whatever.
Every woman is different though, some women hate bigger penises because they are uncomfortable/painful.
There are women out there who will adore your little fella, so do not stress.
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reader, DanceInTheDark  +, writes (4 September 2012):
 Every woman is different.
It's pointless to worry about your dick size, you're putting all the attention on intercourse, that attitude is way more of a deal breaker than the size of your dick.
Most women don't get off from it.
A lot of women don't get a whole lot of pleasure from it.
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reader, Dreamland  +, writes (4 September 2012):
Do you have wide shoulders, nice pecs, and a solid firm butt? Women are turned on by these features a lot, so if you're lacking in the size department make sure you work on these features by way of lifting weights. I am a little under 8" and I've never had women complain. At the same time, they don't shower me with compliments either about being above average. The real sex organs are located in the brain; just work on your game, confidence, and gift of gab and you can make any woman hot for you.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (3 September 2012):
 does your tongue work?
to me I'd rather have a guy with a smaller sized cock (better to give blow jobs)...and a talented tongue....
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2012): Dude, don't worry you've got enough. You'd be considered thick and that's what most ladies like.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2012): not at all its not the equipment its what u do with it and also so many men lie about size its silly really be confident with your "humble cock " you cant change it and even if you could it doesnt need it
hope i helped
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