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writes:hi i am in a long term relationship since my teen years and the last 4 years long distance.but late 1 year my guy has been obsessed about seeimg me doing oral with another guy.i have always said no.but he has kept on asking for this..i dont know wat to do..i just don't like t idea.i know for sure that my guy has never cheated on me..but this problem is creating distance between us please help..Why does he want this?
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (27 November 2012):
 Get a big mirror place it NEXT to the bed so he can WATCH you do him...
And tell him if he brings it up again, you are DONE. (and then BE done).
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (26 November 2012):
 You write: "..but this problem is creating distance between us please help.. Why does he want this?"
In reaction to your first phrase, I'd say: "You can't put ENOUGH distance between you and this cad.... but give it your best shot."
As to your question ("Why does he want this?"): WHO CARES (why he wants you to do this)??? He's clearly behaving like a rat... has no regard for you..... and you will be so much happier when you've sent him on his way and get on with your life.... probably (almost certainly) with a much nicer guy than this one...
Good luck....
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2012): If your boyfriend wants to see you have sex with another guy he DOESN'T NOT RESPECT YOU!!! And don't listen to anyone else who tells you that this is "normal" behavior because, it's NOT. Only a jerk of a guy would want to see his girlfriend or wife has sex with another man. NO man who is deeply in love with you would even think let alone ask you to do such a thing. And chances are, if he wants to see you have sex with another guy, he probably doesn't think there is anything wrong with him wanting, desiring and actually having sex with other women. I would think long and hard about staying with such a guy....if you are a great woman, you will not be happy in the long run with him.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (26 November 2012):
 if he keeps asking and you keep saying NO then he's not listening to you and does not respect you.
Tell him, the next time he asks that the answer is NO and then tell him if he asks again you will have to end the relationship. AND do it.
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reader, megsplace  +, writes (26 November 2012):
 the key answer to any problems is you must talk to him,tell him you are not comfortable doing this with another man that you are exclusively his partner and you will never do this oral sex act as it is his fetish not yours,there is a differance from having a healthy sex life with your partner and becoming uncomfortable in a sex act that he only wants done.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2012): He wants it because he'd like to see it. That's not unusual but he's not allowed to pester you like this anymore about it.
OP tell him one more time that it is never, ever going to happen and if you do end up giving oral to another guy he won't be around to see it because he'll be gone. Tell him he is never to bring it up in conversation again, you're not going to do it and if he can't handle that then it's time he found another girl who will.
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