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writes:Hi,Anybody out there that can tell meWhat the difference is between sexual attractionAnd love? And doesn't it go hand in hand?Thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (5 December 2012):
 OP: How about you stop this "beating around the bush" and post your REAL question, either in this or in another, new submittal??????
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (5 December 2012):
 There is an old saying that I think applies here:
“women need a reason to have sex, men just need a place”
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (5 December 2012):
 Always is a long, long time... no, it does not last "always ". Let enough time pass, and when you bump into someone you were physically attracted to , often you ( and they ) find yourself thinking " Omygod, what was I thinking of ?! How could I ever ..." It may last for a while, for a few years... until the person mantains the very same physical traits which attracted you at the beginning. Or until you- or they- become psychologically sick and tired, decide that you know all their repertory already, and that it's time for something new.
Connection ?- it's not that much of a connection, really. It's just hormons.
If he had multiple partners, well, yes, it must have been physical attraction , he can't have loved them all from the bottom of his heart can he ?
That does not mean that it must have been powerful, overhelming physical attraction . Some men ( well, I am being ingenerous, let's make it " some people " ) just need a very tiny smidgeon of physical attraction to act on their sexual impulses. It depends from the person, really.
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reader, edge4323 +, writes (5 December 2012):
edge4323 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi,
To follow up on my question dated 30 November 2012!
If there was a strong sexual attraction between 2 people, and they split up or she leaves to go back home, and they hook up 2 years later, got back in the "sack", and move on again, does this mean that the sexual attraction between them will always be there and that they will always be connected?(Unfinished business?) Also if the man had multiple sex partners, say for instance between 1 and 10/12, does that mean there was a sexual attraction between him and all these woman? I read the definition on sexual attraction and they claim that something in the opposite partner attracts them like the hair,smell,body language etc. What do you guys think?
Thanks for your input!!
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reader, Anonymous 123 +, writes (1 December 2012):
 Sexual attraction and love don't go hand in hand. I speak from personal experience, because when I have deeply loved a person, I have never imagined him in a sexual way. It was just very intense, deep feelings of affection that were not sexual in any way.
On the other side, I have experienced strong sexual feelings for someone completely different with no affection whatsoever. It was just sexual and it was lust.
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reader, edge4323 +, writes (1 December 2012):
edge4323 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSorry Cindy, thanks for the advice! I will definitely keep it in mind! :)
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reader, CindyCares +, writes (1 December 2012):
Careful:) You may be a strong believer FOR YOURSELF that love and physical attraction go hand in hand, and that you can't have sex without also having feelings . But the other person may very possibly not share your beliefs, so do not just assume he does.
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reader, edge4323 +, writes (1 December 2012):
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Hi,
Thank you so much for all your answers!
Myself and a couple of my gf had a discussion
About this and I also believed that it really
Goes hand in hand. I was and still is a strong
Believer that you can't have sex with someone
Without having "feelings" for that person.
Once again, thanks for taking the time out
To answer my "stupid" question!!
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (30 November 2012):
 Yes, a person can be physically attracted to another person without knowing a thing about them, purely based on looks and/or personality. Basically they can be "pretty" and dumb as a rock, but the latter doesn't matter.
Consider an actor playing a role. He is hot the character is yummy. But since you don't know the ACTUAL human being it can't be love, but it certainly can be sexual attraction.
And you can LOVE someone without being physically attracted to them, because you KNOW them as a person. They could be "ugly as sin" and have the most wonderful personality.
Now if you find someone who stimulate you mentally, physically, spiritually and intellectually grab him up :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2012): I guess basically for me I can be sexually attracted to a lot of men and think they are "hot" but I only feel that true connection for my hubby who I can always count on and vice versa. BTW, I am still very sexually attracted to my husband too even after 20 years! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2012): A sexual attraction is when a persons attraction towards another is based only on a sexual desire, no interest (or immediate interest) in love.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (30 November 2012):
Sexual attraction and love do NOT go hand in hand. They can and it's great when they do... then you marry them.
but you can be sexually attracted to someone (ie. I'll put him on my "to do list") and think he's hot but his brain does not attract you so you can't love him
or you can find someone fascinating and interesting and love spending time with them and you will say "i love him like a brother" and if he feels sexual attraction for you as well as love then he complains that you "friendzoned" him when really you just don't feel "that way" about him.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (30 November 2012):
One of life's ironies is that WOMEN think that it DOES "go hand-in-hand"...... but, MEN think that there is little or no relation between the two concepts.....
Figure that out and you'll be much better prepared to spend time with (and have a "relationship" with) some/any man....
Good luck.....
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